What if you identify as bisexual but you don’t wanna go an act on feelings or arousal?
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Moderated by Maria Wasielewski, Master of Arts in Counseling and Guidance, University of Arizona
Updated: Dec 30, 2019
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Having certain feelings and acting on them are very different things - the first is not a choice, the second is. And you may have several reasons for making this choice. That doesn't change your identity, you're still bisexual whether you act on your feelings or not. However, it's always good to ask ourselves what's the reason for not wanting to act on a feeling: sometimes we have a psychological block about it for social reasons, and overcoming it would make us happy and free. Anyway, everything is fine as long as you genuinely feel happy with it!
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