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How do people view self-harm and the people who do it?

Profile: SpasticQueen
SpasticQueen on Oct 23, 2014
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Some people view it as the person being weak and unable to control their emotions. But the truth is that when you self harm it isn't because you're weak; its because you were strong for too long.
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Profile: Michalla
Michalla on Oct 4, 2014
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My opinion (based on my experience) is, that a lot of people judge people who have problems with sef-harm really badly. They think they are silly, want more attention, emphasise their problem , are mentally disturbed or sometimes that they are just stupid emos or something like that.
Profile: Sara889
Sara889 on Oct 22, 2014
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There is a huge misconception about people who engage in self-harming behaviors. Many people believe that those who do these types of behaviors are only seeking attention. In reality, there are many emotional issues involved in self-harming. People who self-harm are most likely going through deep, emotional struggles and do not know better ways to cope with how they feel. It is an error to assume that people who self-harm just want tobe "the center of attention".
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on May 29, 2015
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Some people think that it's stupid and the people who do it are looking for attention, but others think that people who do it need help and feel sympathy for them. I feel bad for those who do it, because to feel so stressed out that you feel you need to ruin your beautiful body with scars or burns. I care for all of you
Profile: Charity0
Charity0 on Nov 2, 2014
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I've self harmed since I was thirteen and though I'm nearing thirty now, I am still a self injurer. I guess I can only tell you what I've experienced from other people who don't SI. People usually become worried about you or afraid of you (only because they don't understand). There are a lot of misconceptions when it comes to people who hurt themselves, especially via the media. They may mistakenly believe it is to get attention or mean that these people could hurt others and that SI is a violent behaviour. Though the reality of this is upsetting I know that people who have loved ones who self harm or are themselves self harmers can actively change this perception for the better. Personally, I find if I understand the views of those who don't understand self mutiliation which is usually part of depression or other emotional problems, it is easier for me to talk to them and explain how they can help. I've seen a lot of people find huge relief in being told honestly what something they don't understand is, by someone who experiences it first hand.
Profile: JayH
JayH on Oct 29, 2014
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I have very noticeable scars from cutting that I don't bother to hide with clothing. Some people have responded with disgust, which can feel really hurtful, but for the most part people don't comment on it. If it gets brought up in conversation, people tend to simply say that they don't understand it, and ask for a little perspective. More people understand than you might suspect, because many people struggle with it and also many people hide it.
Profile: Thereforyou
Thereforyou on Oct 24, 2014
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people think self harm as an act of stupidity and vulgarity and the people who do self harm as psychos
Profile: NotQuiteBlue
NotQuiteBlue on Feb 16, 2018
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From my experience, people tend to be quite negative towards it because they can't understand why people do it. They tend to see this as attention seeking behavior that doesn't deserve help and that only white, spoilt, teenage girls do it which is obviously not the case. I've also noticed that people tend to think your stupid for putting scars on a perfectly good body or that you are a violent person and try to avoid you. It's also seen as a weakness and like you're unstable.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Nov 13, 2014
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All lot of people would just go "oh, they're suicidal" but there are other people (Exp. Therapists, self-harmers, previous self harmers) all of those people would care. We care here and we'll listen to you about it.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on May 16, 2015
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I'll be honest, before I started doing it myself and before depression hit me, I didn't understand it at all. I didn't understand how someone could intentionally hurt themselves, I didn't understand why they would. I never saw it as attention seeking like some people may think. I was always sad about it, that they were hurting and I couldn't even comprehend how much.
Profile: Kaaarenn
Kaaarenn on Nov 16, 2014
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People who don't self harm see it as a way to call the attention and the find it stupid and unnecessary, people who do it see it as a way to get their problems and everything out, like an escape from everything.
Profile: Birdie725
Birdie725 on Oct 28, 2019
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As someone who has never done self-harm, I am not certain that I am qualified to speak on this. But from my perspective, self-harm is a temporary solution to a variety of emotions including anxiety, fear, apathy, and self-loathing. Unfortunately, self-harm often feels like it works. People who do self-harm often assume they are out of options and are sometimes in circumstances that far exceed what a person's brain should be able to handle. I think people who do self-harm are at their wit's end with their problems, and that instead of shaming them for trying to cope with it in such a violent way, we should reach out to them and let them know that there are other solutions available. Sometimes self-harm is a kind of addiction, something people know is bad for them but have trouble stopping. Again, the correct response should be compassion towards the individual and assurance that things will get better.
Profile: Minh
Minh on Oct 25, 2014
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It depends on the person... If that person is your friend and understand you they will feel bad for you and will try to get you to stop. To strangers self-harm might appear to be scary for them.
Profile: MelLewis
MelLewis on Oct 26, 2014
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I think that people see self harm as a way to seek attention, but it is really a way of coping with feelings and depression.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Apr 4, 2015
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sometimes, people see those who self harm as attention seekers or something among those lines. For those who never had an experience or some kind of depression, it's just plain weird why someone that is already sad would add psychical pain to it. But of course, there are people who understand and try to help the ones who self hard, unfortunately those people are few, compared to the number of people who criticize.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Oct 10, 2016
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Some people may have negative views on self harm and may not believe it but I truly believe if you have never been through it then you will never know the feeling one has when they are in that mind state
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Oct 30, 2014
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Most people think it is stupid, but you'd have to be there to know. It's hard to heal sometimes, inside and out, but if you do self-harm, I promise you will overcome it one day :)
Profile: reliablesteve
reliablesteve on May 20, 2015
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I view people who self-harm as someone who gave up and who was consumed by despair. They were strong, but they didn't stay strong. Now, they live with daily reminders of that fact, that they didn't stay strong, with scars...
Profile: Lola999
Lola999 on Mar 14, 2016
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In my experience self harm is something people do when they feel upset or stressed and are looking for an outlet. I think people who do this need someone to talk to about there problems.
Profile: lavendersilk
lavendersilk on Oct 27, 2014
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Some people view it as just attention-seeking. Some people view it as someone being crazy for doing such thing. It honestly isn't either of those things. It's more of just a way of relief for the person. It doesn't make you crazy and it doesn't mean that you want to commit suicide.
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