Why can't I tell someone I cut myself?
mothernurture
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Jul 7, 2015
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because they will judge you. because they will think you're crazy. They dont understand. because if you try to explain they just have this blank expression and stare at you like yours psycho. but youre really just hurting, and in need of someone's support. in need of a listener.
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Cadence
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Feb 26, 2015
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There's often a really bad stigma that comes with those who self harm. If you feel as though you can't tell someone, it's likely because you're scared of what will happen if people find out. It may be seen as strange, but that's just because those who haven't self harmed don't have experience as to why you would have done it. However, you may find it is better to tell people you trust, because otherwise it may weigh in on your conscience for a while, which may cause more of a trigger.
Anonymous
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May 28, 2015
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It's a subject that almost no one takes serious. They dismiss it as being childish or trying to get attention. Only people in your shoes truly understand. You don't want to be judged. You just want to be understood.
happinessstrives01
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Jan 17, 2017
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Is it because your scared of how they will react? And you don't want them to treat you with pity?
Personally I was always scared to tell someone I cut, I wanted them to notice that I was hurting but no one ever did but at the same time I never told anyone because I didn't want people to think that I did it for attention
Edddy
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Dec 21, 2015
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embarrassed what people would think of me if they knew what I did to myself. And not wanting to disappoint anyone.
Anonymous
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Mar 21, 2016
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It's hard to feel vulnerable and reach out to someone. Anxiety can also stem from fear of rejection or thinking about how someone will react to this information. The important thing to remember is that you're not alone and reaching out for help will be very valuable to your healing.
Anonymous
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Aug 3, 2015
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You might find it difficult to tell someone you are self harming because you don't want that person to feel like you are doing it for the wrong reasons
Rockbandoreos
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Aug 11, 2015
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because they might think your crazy and want to put you in a mental hospital.... thats not good so i suggest you turn to a therapist
xMeowsAndHugs
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Feb 1, 2016
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Knowing that you may have a problem that either you will be criticized about or feel as if no one will listen can be a challenge. Not telling is a sense of 'what if' and leads you to keeping it a secret. I personally did not want to displease my parents, but telling leads to one more step to getting help from people who care. Do not beat yourself up about it. Take your time to get ready to bring it up to someone that can help you.
HayashiYuna333
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Jan 17, 2022
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Telling anyone you've cut yourself is a super difficult thing to do. By telling someone, you're revealing a really personal and vulnerable part of yourself. It's no easy task, and it takes a lot of courage to do it.
I remember when I told my best friend that I cut. Despite asking her opinion on self-harm and her not being judgemental of it, I was sweating like crazy and I was extraordinarily anxious. Even after telling her I cut, it took so long to calm down!
However, I'm really glad I did it. It turns out that she was supportive of me! It was like a weight was lifted off my chest.
If you do tell someone, best of luck! And if they aren't supportive, that's on them and not you. You're not any less of a person for struggling with self-harm.
KickBoxer1967
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Feb 27, 2015
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You could be embarrassed or you could think that people who you tell will tell others and people will tease you about
neverletlifetakeyourspark
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Apr 16, 2015
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It is a difficult situation, I know. I never exactly told anyone, I just showed them. That's a good way to do it, I think. I got the help I needed.
Anonymous
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May 5, 2015
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You are probably embarrassed of your self harm. It's always hard to tell people anout things you're embarrassed of. Also, many people don't understand self harm. You might be afraid that people will think that you're crazy or weird. You could try writing a letter, or telling somebody on the phone. Talking to someone face to face is often the hardest.
dreamVoice41
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Sep 14, 2015
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Maybe because you feel that they will judge you. Humans as a specie are very judgmental, but that does not mean that you can't tell someone you trust.
TranquilForest77
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Aug 16, 2016
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Sometimes when people are feeling sad or emotionless (blank) they/you inflict physical pain onto yourself. This occurs if the person/you cannot control their psychological pain so by hurting yourself, you can control one type of pain. The reason you may not be abled to tell anyone is because that type of state of mind is very personal.
Anonymous
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Oct 4, 2016
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I know from experience that it's hard to tell anyone that you self harm. You are scared on how they'll react, and what they'll do. I could only tell my friend over the phone, I kept it from my parents for 2 years. But when they found out, I realized I had nothing to worry about. I know it's scary, but it's okay. You'll get better help if you tell them, anyone.
MedicNemo
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Oct 17, 2016
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There would be a lot of emotions built up in you, behind that course of action. Self harm is a very emotionally unsteady topic that has been known to cause doubt, self-hatred, anxiety and many more bad effects. Being able to share your struggles with someone can be an amazing help and will definitely be worth doing so. The hesitation to share your struggles regarding self harm may be caused by the inability to find someone who has proven their trust to you. Having the faith to let someone help you is really what it comes down to.
CatOnAMat
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May 8, 2017
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Sometimes people think telling someone about their self harm will make the person they tell disappointed in them or upset, but if that person truly cares about you/ loves you, they will accept you no matter what.
Anonymous
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May 15, 2017
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Because it is so terrifying going up to someone and telling them about your self-harming behaviors. A person just can't really come out and open up. A lot of the time, we think as though people might think we are attention-seeking or a "freak" because of what's portrayed on media.
distinctBurrito
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Nov 3, 2015
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The reason someone might not be able to tell someone else that they cut or self-harm because they might be embarrassed or maybe they're afraid of the persons response to what they've done to themselves, they might feel like they could be judged for it because some people take self-harm different ways then another person might. THey might just be plain afraid of what the person might do to them, for example, the person might send them to a mental hospital or something extreme like that.