Why do other people yell at me for self-harming? Why can't they be more sympathetic?
Smilewhenitrains87
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May 20, 2015
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Those people don't understand why you do it and they think you just want attention. some people don't realize that it's an unhealthy coping mechanism for a person who's just carrying too much weight on their shoulders. We all have those times in our lives where it feels like we are overwhelmed and that's OK. In life sometimes we fall down. it can take a long time to get back up. But that's okay. As long as you get back on your feet.
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Hogwarts
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Nov 16, 2015
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Well there is really only one answer to this question.
Because they are stupid, that's why. I'm very sorry.
Mindfulthinking
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May 9, 2015
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They are worried. They don't see the real problem, they see it as you harming yourself. Not why you are doing it.
originalLion57
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Jun 4, 2015
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They are ignorant and lack empathy. They can't put themselves in your shoes and imagine that you must go through a great deal of pain in order to choose a coping mechanism such as self-harming. You should be met with understanding and empathy instead of yelling and ignorance.
Anonymous
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Jun 30, 2015
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They don't understand why you would do such of thing, they don't understand what your going through, they want you to stop, listen to your heart, and get help.
crispSalamander95
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Jun 5, 2017
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People really do not understand the reasons behind self-harm. SH scares a lot of people and because of that, they do not react very well when faced with someone self-harming. I know it really sucks when people over react. People will never really understand unless they have dealt with self-harm themselves
Kaysha
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Oct 27, 2015
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Because people who love you don't want to see you hurting yourself and in pain. Sometimes they think it's their fault so they get angry.
Anonymous
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Jan 11, 2015
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Well,some people won't understand you, they will think that you're doing that only for attention or something like this and this is why they will be rude. And another people will yell at you because they care ! Because they don't want to see you hurt.
Priv8
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May 30, 2015
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Self Harming is a behaviour that a lot of people have trouble understanding, and when people don't understand something, they tend to react negatively towards it. Sympathy is hard to offer if you don't understand what you're sympathizing with.
kindRose22
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Sep 22, 2015
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some people can't deal with people that self harm mostly because it brings up bad memories for them
cherishedJet13
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Nov 23, 2015
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People don't understand self harm. They see the harming aspect of it, but not the relief it gives people. They just don't understand.
SaraMichelle
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Dec 14, 2015
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Because they don't personally understand. They can't wrap their heads around the reason of why you are doing this.
someoneoutthereblr
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Feb 1, 2016
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People get scared when they see scars because they want you to be happy, and when they see the scars, they are worried about what might come next. When they yell at you, that is because they care. They aren't more sympathetic because they are scared and they want you to stop. As well, many of them don't know why you do it. People are awful to you about self harming because they are scared... And I am sorry you have to live with that
Anonymous
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Feb 2, 2016
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I think others yell out of fear mainly, fear of something they don't understand, fear that they can't save you and make it all okay. Be patient with and educate them by bring honest when you feel able - tell them how they can help you not add to your issues
Anonymous
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May 31, 2016
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because some people do self harming for attention. that's why it's hard for other people to understand whose the real persons who suffers.
MedicNemo
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Oct 17, 2016
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It's important to know that other's may not have had the knowledge on how to respond to them. Offering a conversation, aimed to enlighten is often worth trying, but if they continue to disagree, let them be so and understand that they may have their own opinion.
Anonymous
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Oct 18, 2016
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It shows that they are scared because they want to help but don't understand it so they be hoping you will snap out of it. Some people will never understand. Best thing to do is focus on yourself and speak to people that do understand or that can help.
compassionateCat90
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Jan 16, 2017
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Not everyone understands what it's like to be someone who self harms. They assume people who do it do it for attention and think it's simple to switch to alternative methods just like that. It's hard to be sympathetic of something you don't understand but none the less yelling is never the way to go. If you can think of a way to explain the feeling of need to self harm and help them understand it could help them become more sympathetic if they understood the situation better
Anonymous
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Feb 28, 2017
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Other people may not understand self-harming and react to it in a fight-or-flight response. You cannot control how other people react, what they say or think. You can only control and count on what you think aobut your own self-harming. It's ok to say "Can you just give me a hug this isn't helping right now?" but beyond being calm and honest about what you need, you cannot control what other people do with that information. You are looking for sympathy. It is posible you can find that sympathy if you keep telling other people about your self-harming. Eventually you will find osmeone who can be compassionate and help you the way you want to be helped. You will not find that person if you give up on them existing altogether. Good luck!
Anonymous
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May 22, 2017
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Some people may be worried about your safety and health and that worry can translate into anger. Others may not understand what you're going through and think that you're just doing it for attention. If it's the former, try to keep in mind that you are loved and cared for. If it's the latter, try and educate others on your difficulties so they can be more helpful and compassionate in the future.
