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Trying2move4ward
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I'm ok now
Relationship Stress / by Trying2move4ward
Last post
 September 16th, 2016
...See more I think it was 2 months ago that I was first on here, pouring my heart out about the love of my life I was with for 6 and a half years. Long story short, he broke up with me because he got into medical school and said he couldn't balance that and a relationship. A week later he started dating someone else. Naive me, I stayed around because I was the only one he could talk to about the struggles and who he could break down to. He then buys me a ticket to America as a bday and grad gift and I willingly accepted it. Then he buys himself one even tho he said he wouldn't go. I was so afraid to see him but also had faith we'd get back together. A week. Wrote I saw him, he told me him and the girl are getting more serious. I respected it but broke down and was afraid to see him. The week came that I had to see him and he acted like we were together, I tried to avoid him but we were under the same house. Once he left again he said he didn't mean anything he said or did with me when he saw me and is back to the girl. That was when I saw the line was crossed. What sick person does that. We all need that kick and I got it. I'm not completely over him and I'll always love him but he broke me down even more but now I know, he has no future with me. If only I could go into detail with it all. But guys, you'll get over it too. I really thought I'd be nothing without him but next week, I start my masters degree program and I will be successful and happy without him. If I can do it, you can too!
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He called me and explained
Relationship Stress / by Trying2move4ward
Last post
 August 2nd, 2016
...See more Yesterday, he told me he really likes her because they have the same dream of becoming a doctor and she is genuinely nice and let's him be friends with whoever. This hurt me immensely. Just thinking of how I met him when I was 15 and since he knew he wanted to become a doctor I did everything so he wouldn't be stressed. I admit, when I was younger I was always jealous and demanding but who isn't when they're so young and naive? I don't want to explain the whole thing but I know I changed, and I really did all to help him. From doing his applications, to not speaking to him at all cos he said he didn't want to be bothered to study. He said he wants to be my friend and he will be nicer to me now, and he's so sorry for everything but he feels like he found someone who he really likes. Hearing this after being with someone for almost 7 years and when we broke up due to him wanting to focus on med school it had shattered me even more. this is all confusing and I admit I am not at all perfect. I argue and get jealous still, but it is because he always lied and that is why I always confronted him. I always said why can't you just be honest w me and he said because of this exact reason because you get mad. But who does not get mad when you're lied to and the only time they tell the truth is when you find out somehow. Our relationship was complicated but just hearing his reasons why he doesn't want me hurts.
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He's moved on
Relationship Stress / by Trying2move4ward
Last post
 August 1st, 2016
...See more I just found out he's actually dating this person he claimed to not be pursuing ( the one he started talking to a week after he broke up with me even tho he broke up w me to concentrate on med school) . He fed me lies over and over again. He said he'd never be able to move on from me because he loves me so much.. Man, this guy is a real asshole. I said why didn't you just tell me the truth 2 weeks ago when I asked you and he said he didn't want to hurt my feelings. Can you believe that lol? He's so stupid I'm just laughing now. I said why did you tell me last week that we could get back together soon? He said because how do I know if things will last with her? I told him, if that day comes when you figure out you shouldn't have let go of me, don't bother messaging me or calling me because I will never get back with you. I'm not even crying right now finding out this news. Yes it hurts like a bitch, but why would I want to be with someone like this? He lied over and over again, put me down everything. All I know is, I have him my all for 6 and a half years and took the emotional and verbal abuse because I always thought he's just stressed and pressured because of trying to get into medical school. Boy was I wrong. But now I know, I feel stronger and more confident than ever before. All I have to say is good luck to him and hopefully, he can now be responsible for everything he does in his life.
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It hurts
Relationship Stress / by Trying2move4ward
Last post
 August 1st, 2016
...See more Today, I am back home after being on a 2 month holiday. All the memories of me crying in my room came back, all the initial pain that I felt when I found out he likes someone else came back. I texted him saying it's crazy right? Before I left for vacation you said you just need time and after medical school, you'll come find me and things will be better. I already knew that was a lie but while I was on vacation.. That changed. He said he won't come find me anymore. He can't be with me because he really likes this girl. His response to my text was "I'm happy I will see you soon though, we will have a lot of fun". Usually when I go visit him he always says he doesn't want me to go there because I'm just dead weight. But now that I'm not his girlfriend, he says he can't wait to see me? That is how I know there is nothing between us and no way to get back together. Surprisingly, it didn't hurt as much as before when I read that. I was able to breath and my heart wasn't racing. all I know is, when I see him, I will tell him after this one week we are together I will stop communicating with him because it is only hurting me and keeping me from moving on completely. Unfortunately I do have to see him because his sister in law bought me the ticket to see her and then I find out he's going too. everything is complicated because of how close I am to his family, we almost lasted 7 years anyway so it's understandable why. But the week i have with him, will be the last I talk to him.
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I think I'm moving on?
Relationship Stress / by Trying2move4ward
Last post
 July 26th, 2016
...See more Is it considered moving on when you accept that things just can not work out anymore even though he still texts you everyday? He doesn't text me like me before when it was basically every hour. Now there are times when we don't even say good night or good morning to each other. I think I've moved on because I realised that he isn't the guy I see myself settling down with because of his attitude. He is not consistent, he broke up with me and then started liking someone else within a week even though we were together for 6 and a half years. I think I'm moving on because I am able to walk away anytime but when I do, he texts me like I never said I want to stop. When I told him he is difficult to love and I give up trying, he booked his ticket to come to America when he knew I was coming to visit my friends and his family. I think I've moved on because I accept it, that he likes someone else and is giving them time and not me. I've accepted it that he will never be the guy he once was regardless of what j do for him, what I give him and the amount of endless support and love I give to him. I think I've moved on.
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