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TurtlePaws85
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PathStep 12 Compassion hearts26 Forum posts14 Forum upvotes6 Current upvotes6 Age GroupAdult Last activeOctober, 2017 Member sinceJuly 21, 2017
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Trying to remember
Relationship Stress / by TurtlePaws85
Last post
 February 14th, 2018
...See more I had an affair with a man while I was in a relationship. My boyfriend is asking about the details and I cant remember!!! Its so frustrating because I want to answer his questions, I want to be honest 100% with him. I dont remember details of what we talked about, normal conversations and sex messages. I dont remember every single time we met. Sometimes things will come back to me and I try to tell my bf right away but it leads to a whole new round of questions relating to things outside of that detail and I cant remember!! It makes him frustrated and he thinks Im lying or playing dumb. He even brings up his own memories of times he suspected and I can neither confirm or deny it happened. Has anyone ever experienced this before? Any advice? Thoughts? Theories? Anything is appreciated.
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Infidelity
Relationship Stress / by TurtlePaws85
Last post
 September 27th, 2017
...See more I cheated on my partner with the same guy over a span of 3 years. Our relationship wasn
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Confrontation that turned physical
Relationship Stress / by TurtlePaws85
Last post
 September 5th, 2017
...See more So about a month ago, my then boyfriend and I got into an argument. It got pretty heated and he started to shut down. Wouldn't talk or tell me anything. He told me to leave but the fact that he was shutting me out yet again enraged me. I wanted answers because I had no intentions of going back. I followed him into the house and when I was in the doorway he told me to leave again. When I said no, he slammed the door on my foot over and over again about 5-6 times. He grabbed me by my arms and squeezed pretty hard and started to push and shake me. I reacted by pushing him and yelling "don't f***king touch me!!" I shoved him hard against the wall. I don't know if he slipped or if I pushed him hard enough but he hit the wall and slid down to the floor, hitting some boxes. We argued some more and I eventually left. Now my question is...looking forward...and trying to see if we can work through our problems...how do I get past that? I've never been in a situation like that. I'm just as much to blame as he is. I'm not making excuses for him. How do we work past that? What can we do? Is there even anything we can do? Any thoughts or suggestions would be great.
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Social Media Exposure
Relationship Stress / by TurtlePaws85
Last post
 February 16th, 2018
...See more Has anyone ever publicized their ex's wrong doings on social media? If so, why and how did you deal with the consequences of it?
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His Last Text To Me...Things I Already Knew
Relationship Stress / by TurtlePaws85
Last post
 August 23rd, 2017
...See more Am I attracted to you? No Do I want to be with you? No Can I do better? Yes Are you worth it? No Are you worth ANY of my time? No Am I relieved to be relieved of you? Absolutely. Exhilarated. Breathed a sigh of relief. **I didn't know what to do with this so I'll just leave it here. I just wanted him to love me. I just wanted to be loved. There is no shred of the old me left. I don't want to be here anymore.**
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I feel so stupid. I should've known.
Relationship Stress / by TurtlePaws85
Last post
 August 18th, 2017
...See more Our 4 year relationship ended when I found out he had a texting app downloaded into his phone that he was using to message and call other women. Everything was pointing to him and what he was doing. It led to a big fight that got physical on both sides. We broke up and he went right back to what he was doing. It's been 4 days and since day 3 he's been showing me his irrefutable evidence that it wasn't him. Part of me wants to believe him but the other part knows better. Everything was right there!! This isn't the first time he cheated, physically or emotionally. The damnedest part of it is I still miss him. I find myself wishing we could reconcile but I know I deserve better. I don't even really want him back!! I don't understand it!! He treated me so badly when I think back. I was always lonely and unhappy. This hurts like hell but under the anger and tears and sadness and hurt I feel a lightness about me. I don't understand this!!
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