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Previous relationship messed me up
35 & Over Community / by adventurousTortoise1165
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 August 11th, 2025
...See more I recently met a man I really liked. We spoke on the phone twice and my conversation was so awkward both times. I realized I wasn't really participating in the conversation, I wasn't asking questions. It was like I was frozen and could not think straight. This man decided not to contact me again and I'm pretty sure he is not interested in pursuing a relationship with me. I pondered about what happened to me in those moments and I realized that my last relationship has left me really insecure. The entire time I kept thinking that this person is too good for me, that if I tell him something about myself he's going to judge me and not like me. When The truth is that that may have happened but at least I would have been myself. In this scenario I feel worse because this person didn't even get to know the real me. I also realize that I need to first work on myself and heal these wounds that I have. My confidence and self-worth has really taken a hit from the way my ex-treated me. I just feel kinda bummed that I didn't get a chance with this person because of my insecurities.
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Morning anxiety tips?
Anxiety Support / by adventurousTortoise1165
Last post
 May 23rd, 2025
...See more Does anyone have any tips on how to deal with high anxiety upon waking up? although morning anxiety is not new for me, currently I'm a few weeks post breakup and it's even worse. Any advice would help!
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38- single and scared
Relationship Stress / by adventurousTortoise1165
Last post
 May 19th, 2025
...See more I reached out to my ex after 1.5 years to discuss what happened between us and why we ended --- it always bothered me. I guess that was my biggest mistake. He agreed to meet and when we spoke said he wants to give our relationship another try. I was sooo happy but then 1-2 months later he started to pull away, would ignore my messages so I knew something was up. I asked him a few times why he was so distant and he said he was feeling a lot of stress at work and was feeling really depressed. I was trying to be there and be patient and I never complained once. Through some digging I found out he was engaged the entire time and is getting married now. When I confronted him about it he clearly told me he had no intentions of having an actual relationship with me this time around. That crushed me it was so heartless. This was 3 weeks ago. He's getting married in the next few days but I just can't stop thinking about it. I just keep seeing his face and him with someone else and I feel so anxious. I know I just shouldn't care cuz he's shown me that he's a terrible person but I don't know what to do. I don't want to think about him I want to forget about him completely and forget that he ever existed. I'm 38 and I feel like I will never find anyone. My dreams of having a family is slowly fading away and I am so scared. I was so happy when we got back together because I thought I could finally have my dream but now I'm so crushed. How do I move on from this? How do I forget about him? How do I stop thinking about all the things that I'm not going to have with him anymore. How do I accept that it's not worth it because he's terrible person. I want to stop thinking about him with another person because it doesn't matter if she gets what I had imagined because he's not a good person.
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37 almost 38, single and depressed
35 & Over Community / by adventurousTortoise1165
Last post
 May 23rd, 2025
...See more I recently got back with an ex after 1.5 years. He said he wanted to get back together, wanted to be with me etc. then he started to communicate less and through some digging i found out he was engaged to someone else. I immediately broke things off and he made it clear he had no intentions of a real relationship with me, just killing the months till he's married. I'm so hurt, I really saw a future with him. I'm so worried I will never find anyone and I'll be alone forever. online [http://forever.online] dating has been terrible for me. I really want a family and I'm afraid that I don't have a partner. i feel so alone and anxious
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