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creativePenguin5558
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Sleep hygiene
Healthy Living / by creativePenguin5558
Last post
 July 16th
...See more Hey everyone, I am struggling very badly with my sleep hygiene. Going to bed at all hours, waking up at different hours, etc. I cannot seem to get myself to go to bed. I do use a cpap that I am very adjusted to so that is not the issue. It is more so avoidance and sleep procrastination. Does anyone else have suggestions besides forcing myself to do so and exercising? I struggle greatly with finding the motivation to exercise. It is getting started that is the hardest part.
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Relationship still salvageable
Relationship Stress / by creativePenguin5558
Last post
 March 1st
...See more I am married for over 20 years. I have so much hurt which has turned into deep bitterness and anger towards my spouse that I am right now teetering on the fence of sticking it out or calling it quits once I can find a job that will support myself. My husband is frequently nitpicking and critical of how I do pretty much anything. I have been staying at home since 2020 for a multitude of reasons and it seems that we almost never tackle anything as a team, I spent so many years with gaslighting, projection, etc and now after all these years ofcriticism, accusations, him not listening etc he wants to try and connect but then makes no effort to support me emotionally and we never do anything together usually because of his work which is a whole other chapter in and of itself. I am so tired of overfunctioning to his underfunctioning. If you have ever read the book the dance of anger you will understand what I mean. He finally got himself into individual counseling (something he has said he has wanted to do for the past 2 years as well as see a psychiatrist). He brought it up to me. It is my general belief that couples counseling works best when some of each person's individual struggles are being worked on individually before couple's counseling. He just started but if I am teetering on the fence should I still wait or say I don't think we can just get by with both of us doing individual counseling. I have been going to counseling for 15 plus years and find it very helpful as well as psychiatrist for meds and I know I can only change myself but being under constant stress because of the stress of the relationship makes me want to just find a safe space to allow my nervous system to decompress and I do not have that space. I just don't know if I have it in me to keep sticking it out in what feels like a transactional relationship only. I just needed to get this out.
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