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pineapplesandwhich
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partner is struggling
Relationship Stress / by pineapplesandwhich
Last post
 July 17th
...See more I came here to get some advice because honestly I feel really stressed and sad. My partner has been struggling with mental health issues (maybe a little before summer began) and I need advice. I understand that their goal everyday is to just make it to the next and they shouldn’t have to worry about a relationship on top of all that but I asked them if they wanted to break up when this all started and they told me no. I feel selfish because I have some bare minimum things that aren’t being met (Goodmorning and goodnight + tiny amount of affection) I try to plan hangouts or “dates” but it always seems like theyre avoiding it, the one hangout they accepted they asked to leave an hour in. They can hangout with their friends (which is usually why they decline hangouts) just fine but when it comes to me it seems so hard. I think maybe this summer we’ve seen eachother 2-3 times. Most days we only have 1-2 short 5 minute convos, I try to engage more to show them I’m there but usually I’m left on delivered for 5+ hours. I don’t know if this is true or not because this is just my hunch but I also think during the times I’m in delivered their talking to their other friends. I just feel so selfish for wanting my old partner back but I know she isn’t atleast for awhile, but I also feel selfish because I want so much more then they can give me right now. I know I’m just overthinking but it makes me wonder if they said no to breaking up just to protect my feelings or something. I feel bad because when I was struggling they stayed with me and tried to help me out of it but I still did what I could for our relationship. (I also feel as if I can’t talk about it to them because when I found out they were struggling they also told me that my constant issues with them was causing them more stress and they couldn’t do much because they were struggling)
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Games?
Hobby Zone / by pineapplesandwhich
Last post
 June 18th
...See more Any fun free steam games that are worth the play for mac? Seems all the good games are only windows!
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Happy
Positivity & Gratitude / by pineapplesandwhich
Last post
 June 18th
...See more Ever since I joined 7 cups I’ve been feeling a lot better! I’m very grateful I found this community! I’ve started taking better care of myself. I’m grateful for my cat and my family too.
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Tips!
Music & Dance / by pineapplesandwhich
Last post
 June 18th
...See more Any drummers here? If so can I have some tips to play accented notes! Especially on 16th notes or even triplets.
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Steps!
Healthy Living / by pineapplesandwhich
Last post
 June 21st
...See more I don’t know if this is the correct place to post this but I got almost 10k steps today! Very happy it’s been awhile since I’ve hit even 3k 😄😄😄😄
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Comparison
Eating Disorder Support / by pineapplesandwhich
Last post
 June 17th
...See more Hello! I have struggled with an eating disorder off and on for a couple years now, each time fighting the battle by myself and it is only now I want to seek help with it. My current partner has always been understanding and just never entered the realm of exercise, diet, and calories. Every time my feelings flare up I keep them too myself but these past couple of months have been really bad like almost back at square one bad and recently they have decided to start running for the purpose of 1. Getting better at running and 2. Looking better for photos coming up and this has really sent me in a spiral of being competitive! For some reason I feel inferior like I need run and burn more calories then them even though I hate running! I’ve never been athletic my mile time is like 12 minutes!! Has this feeling happened to anybody? I feel like I need to catch up with her or I am lazy for not doing the same. Or maybe it’s the fear they’ll end up looking better then me? I don’t know but I need help 😓
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Dependency
Relationship Stress / by pineapplesandwhich
Last post
 June 21st
...See more Hi I’m new to this 😓 In my relationship I’m very dependent and focused on them even when they most likely aren’t thinking about me (or to the extent I am) and I want to know how to change. I feel as if my issues are suffocating my partner and I want to change for the better. I’m very dependent in ways like always wanting to text/hangout or being frustrated when they have other plans with people (though I’ve never restricted them from going I’ve kept these kinda thoughts to myself) and I’m even insanely jealous of celebrity crushes. I feel like I always lash out before I tell them an issue or never give myself time to understand if the issue is serious or not, and this resulted in my partner feeling very anxious and walking on eggshells around me. I just feel bad and I wish I was different but I don’t know how, apart of me wishes this behaviors was put in check awhile ago so it wouldn’t be so drilled into my brain. but I guess what I’m asking is how do I not rely on my partner so much? How do I put space between us without feeling like they want to end things? How do I stop them from being on my mind so much?
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