Is anyone else stuck between a rock and a hard place?
Every day I seem to be doing worse and worse. But in my mind I’m doing better. I have a.. had a.. idk.. fiancé and son.. my fiancé or whatever she is now at the moment idk is constantly telling me I’m doing things wrong it feels like. And whether she says it calm or not I blow up. I just want her to be happy. But I can’t do that. I know I can’t. I know I just need to be taken away far far far away.. locked away to never be seen again.. medicated to the point I feel no more..
@v3n0mX
When those around us tell us things that may lead us to think we do things wrong ..... at a point we need to see that although it may not be their way ............... does not make it Wrong Just different.....
it is imperative to improve your communication ........ you need to while respecting her wishes she needs to do the same back....... do not let someone else expectations or demands define you
Couples are teams......... not one person and their sidekick...
@v3n0mX
If you don't mind, what kind of things is she saying you are doing wrong?
Hello, it’s varies. One moment it’s I get upset and yell. Then when I calm down I actually am doing good. It’ll be well I feel like we aren’t even talking. Or something else. Anytime I try to voice anything bothering me it always seems to somehow end up being a result of something I either did or didn’t do and I never know. But I can never just voice like “hey this bothered me” she feels she can’t do the same with me. Day after day I feel is fight more and more and I am ready to throw in the towel
@v3n0mX
it is communication and lots of couples need this work ..........when it is at point of you do not want to share and she does not either .... nothing is solved.
pick your strongest communication sometimes it is writing to not be interrupted ......
the fault and blame game does not end unless you can communicate........ it is hard and frustrating
example i asked for spouse input and he say general things because he is too worried that i might disagree when i am getting angrier and angrier that he will not make solid suggestions
I understand that. It’s hard. I have my stuff going on in my head that I can’t seem to figure out how to handle. Some days I just feel absolutely blank. It’ll go on for days. Weeks sometimes. Other times I’m just the absolute most perfect person and it seems I’m present and able to be here for her. A lot of the times though it feels I can’t. Like I’m a zombie. I feel a constant haze and idk how to lift it.
@v3n0mX
I get that me too in fact today is first day i feel almost back to normal ..... a switch was flipped this weekend and frankly i am not sure what it was.....
i remember so many things in school or childhood that i did not want to do but had to smile and march on....
thinking when i was grown i would not need to do that .... but funny thing life does not stop for my moods and if i feel like it.............. so i am seeing i should have had a better attitude as a child because i still need to smile and march on.... even in zombie mode and yes i have felt that before.
i think sometimes partners take the "you did this wrong or blame " when they too are unhappy/ stressed ..... i have forced myself to be nice and ask ..... why do you do some item this way? .....
Then i explain my reason in doing different ( why i think they are doing wrong lol ) more often then not we see points we had not considered ..... and item is not a issue any longer ....... funny a small item dissolved made a difference...... one by one we can work through it.
small steps done when you feel ok or zombie mode
