i never learned how to make friends.
i'm a 21 year old college student, and i've had social anxiety for my entire life. i deal with that by isolating myself from others, and unfortunately that means i never learned how to make friends. i try to be okay with it and tell myself that i don't need others to make me happy, but that is not true. loneliness is so hard to deal with. i have one friend irl, (who initiated our friendship) but she is always busy, and she already has a best friend.
i'm studying english and have a love for books. i also really enjoy cooking/baking, kpop girl groups, cozy video games, musicals, and *** reality tv. i tend to be more comfortable talking to other women (or non-men in general) due to past experiences. if anyone else relates, i would love to try to become friends :)
@lavenderMoon987
Hey if you ever need someone to talk to about social anxiety I am here. I find it difficult to initiate friendships too and the few that I do have are not the best. I also tell myself that I don’t need friends but it is so difficult. Anyways I hope you find a best friend soon :)
@lavenderMoon987lm a guy but I get along matter with women then men!!
Hey! We have a lottt of the same hobbies, I am a non-man😂 (love it I’ll probably be using that) and I definitely want to open up more I’m in college as well
@hb2003 hello! im always up for talking about our shared hobbies :)
@lavenderMoon987
for “cozy” video games I like dead cells and stray:) both pretty great little escapes, I used to read a lot more I want to start Gone Girl, and I watch anime here and there but love old cartoons and reality tv
@hb2003 i'm interested in stray because i love cats, but i've avoided it because it has the potential to be sad if something bad happens to the cat. is it a sad game? i'm not familiar with dead cells, tell me about it!
i definitely feel not being able to read as much as you used to. school has me super busy right now, so i don't have any time to read for fun :(
any anime/cartoon recommendations? anime specifically is super intimidating to me because i have no idea where to start watching
@lavenderMoon987 hello
I won't say I completely understand it all, (cause no one ever can say that) but I have a very similar life to what you said and I feel you.
I turned 21 about 4 months ago and been struggling with many issues including anxiety, loneliness, depression and self doubt. I would like to suggest a digital friendship if u're still making new friends 🙂
@LittlePineapple5772 yeah, of course! how are you?
Hey lavendermoon
I'm a 25 yo male and feel the same.
I have c-ptsd and social anxiety so im usually hiding in my room avoiding people.
I could really use a friend if you want to chat :)
@lavenderMoon987 i understand how you may feel, though I don't relate. I'm usually the one to initiate but I've heard my friends tell me how they felt about making friends in an unfamiliar setting. but don't push yourself, okay? friendship cannot be formed in a matter of emergency. and besides, online friends are just as awesome! when you find someone interesting, don't hesitate to smile at them, or wish a good morning. it's very hard and awkward at first, so only do it when you feel like doing it. and I'm sure you'll start feeling more comfortable in your surroundings!!
p.s I would love to be friends with you!!
I absolutely relate because it's exactly the same with me, always trying to learn to make friends and not succeeding just makes me feel so incompatible to others and I would really love to try and become friends as well so you can text me on here.
@courageousTree8331 hello! how are you today?
@lavenderMoon987 I relate to every word you said. loneliness hurts so much and only people who experienced it can understand how empty it makes you feel.
I'm here, I'm your friend when you need a shoulder to cry on, I'm your sister when you feel alone. Remember we're all listening and we hear you, darling.
If you wanna be friends, you can text me. I'd love to have online friends as well
@Vega7779 aww, thank you so much, i would love to be friends :)
@lavenderMoon987 I relate to your story so much.
I'm 20 right now (male), It's so hard to make friends right now when I have a huge amount of stress around me. I have problems with my self image and sexuality, I just found out about my biological father without my mom and adoptive father, and I'm struggling with loneliness and feeling drained..
@lavenderMoon987 Im 21 too and this is me right now. Would love to be friends on here! I love watching reality tv shows as well, what are some of your favorite shows?
@MidnightSerenity8196 definitely love island, though i need to get caught up on the more recent seasons. been getting into the bachelor/bachelorette and america's next top model as well! what about you ??
@lavenderMoon987 I like watching love is blind, real housewives and drag race. I always hear about love island, debating if I should get into it.
@MidnightSerenity8196 i've been wanting to start real housewives, but there are so many cities and i am overwhelmed about knowing where to start! what's your favorite one??
highly recommend love island, it's my personal favorite. i'd suggest starting with the uk seasons bc that's the original
@lavenderMoon987 I feel the same way about Love Island since there can be a lot of episodes lol. I like Atlanta but it hasn't been the best in more recent seasons. Honestly, this isn't a Real Housewives show but I would recommend Married to Medicine.
@MidnightSerenity8196 ooh, thank you for the recommendation, i will check that out! my fav seasons of love island uk are season 3, season 4, season 6, and season 7