35+ Community Check-in April 12, 2021
Hello everyone, hope you had a relaxing start of the new week 
Being Present in difficult situations
In a difficult situation many people focus solely on what is happening. Of course, it is important to notice what’s going on but next time it happens to you, try to be at least as much interested in your reactions as you are in the situation itself or the person who caused you to react.
Notice if your thoughts are in the past without judging them.
Watch the thought, feel the emotion, observe your reaction.
Please come back here and share your view or experience on this exercise.
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thanks amiable :)
my eldest child couldn't sleep last night and my husband and I had a huge argument. I'm still really angry this morning which is unusual for me. I'm unwell with a throat infection and trying to finish some work that's due soon. I feel like i have no space for myself or what I need. I think my husband and I need to explore a different relationship model such as parenting marriage
@pvroom
This day must have been incredibly hard for you, hugs. You deserve your own space where you can just let go and relax. I hope the parenting marraige will help to create more time for yourself.
Sending you strong healing beams 
@amiablePeace77
thank you, you are very kind. I am finding this space very useful especially as it is more of a community rather than just a space to vent.
@pvroom
I'm glad you feel like that
I hope you’re able to create space for yourself and your needs. Rooting for you.
@amiablePeace77
Notice if your thoughts are in the past without judging them.
When I focus on my breath my thought stream is only a trickle.
Watch the thought, feel the emotion, observe your reaction.
In uncertain circumstances, I am more likely to get caught in the flow of thoughts by reacting to them in a fearful or anxious way.
@soulsings
Uncertainty is a big challenge for many people, in those times it's very important to stay present. Glad you can connect to your breath as an anchor.
This is a valuable reminder and i appreciate the reminder to hold to a sense of perspective in all moments. I have a question. In the past i have striggled with peiple telling me i shouldnt feel the way i feel, and so those difficult emotions become harder to let go, cause i shouldmt even be this way. But what ive learned about jealousy latly has really helped me to realize i shouldnt feel like that and it was releasing...is there a certain balance to strike? Is more information what sets you free? HOW DO I BEST JUDGE WHAT TO KEEP IN MY MIND?
@enthusiasticTortoise6681
Hi tortoise, nice to see you here! Sorry to hear what others are telling you, hugs. Your emotions belong to you and are authentic and valid so but sometimes they are based on perceptions, thoughts or beliefs which might not be right like it happens to all of us, not only you. It seems that in the case of jealousy you became aware that there is a different way to seeing the situation which is more helpful to you and this is a great observation!
Mindfulness helps to let go of negative thoughts and to keep those which are helpful. It also teaches not to cling too much but accept how things are and unfolding. This does not mean surrender but accepting which, of course, can be very hard at times.
This is a link for a meditation to free your mind https://Free Your Mind - A Guided Meditation on Letting Go
Hope this helps
Take Rest
@Ehtashamch
Getting enough rest is important! Thanks for the reminder.
@amiablePeace77
This is a very deep thought. Really. Reminiscent of the Toa, (not a direct quote) but being free-ed from the burden of ego, less reactive, slower to judgement. And I hope and plan to make this a practice of my everyday life.
@enthusiasticTortoise6681
Learning to put down the burden of the ego and living a mindful life is a great practise to start!
