Heartbroken 😭😭💗
I'm feeling lots of emotions and feelings! I recently joined HER dating app a month ago and I got a match ( we both matched) which is pretty great and exciting. We both hit it off pretty well and talked and video called one another and communicated for quite some time come to find out I had been catfished by the person after awhile I started noticing some red flag sort of things including some things loved ones noticed as well too
Catfish is always a possibility to happen but you don't necessarily think about it while you're genuinely trying to get to know someone to become your beautiful partner and then you come to find out that they have been fake with you the whole entire time when you from day one have all been honest and truthful as things should be when you're trying to create a relationship and that goes for any kind of relationships in your life her name was Annie and come to find out her real name was Anna I figured it out by subtle things like her phone number when I used it on WhatsApp that when I called her actual number it was an unverified number that it would just hang up on me and I looked up the number on been verified website and it was registered to a 46 year old man and that Annie supposedly told me that she owned her own clothing company in San Francisco but unfortunately the clothing store is a real store but she does not own it the web address had an valid web address just little subtleties like that I noticed as time went on her stories just didn't add up as we got to get warmer with each other there was just a lot of back and forth but I'm very smart girl so I instantly told my loved ones about it and they helped me along the way I figured out
Definitely does not take away the pain of what happened most definitely I feel very cheated out I feel very humiliated and confused and frustrated and and in a lot of pain as well I deserve all the love in the world and I deserve to find someone that will be genuine and loving and everything that I would ever want in a partner it's just not fair for those like myself that put themselves out there genuinely looking for what what they're wanting and looking for a genuine connection and people like that hurt people like that like they did me that's not fair to me or anyone else I'm in very much distress in in lots of pain right now catfishing is always going to be out there but I can't be afraid of it it can't be something that I'm constantly thinking about behind my thoughts and emotions it definitely is a scary world out there and it's not fair to those like myself to go through something like this it's very painful and emotionally exhausting it's hard enough it is to open up yourself to finding someone to share your life with and having people like that catfish you or whatever makes it a lot more difficult I don't want this experience with Annie aka Anna to ruin the experiences that I'll have in the future of finding someone to share my life with if I did that nothing would actually happen I'm very much in a lot of pain right now that's for sure
Please send lots and lots of love my way and lots of prayers and lots of positive energy my way I really could use the help to heal from this experience and grieve the experience so that I can move forward
I'm all new to the dating scene so having this experience with catfishing definitely has made me feel very discouraged and very unsure of everything it has brought up a lot of depression and anxiety towards the whole situation right now I deserve all the love in the world to find my person I'm worth loving someone and being loved by someone💗💗💗💗💗💗💗
@LovelyFrog8934
Your feelings are totally valid and very understandable in this situation. It is unfair. You feel like you have been tricked and cheated and lied to and all those things feel miserable.
But I love that you are determined to not let this affect you going forward. It is OK to grieve what you have lost. And at the same time to recognise that there are still opportunities for you to achieve what you want to achieve.
Dating has it highs. But with that comes the risk of lows. I'm sorry you had to experience that, but I wish you success for the future.
@LovelyFrog8934
Friend. Remember - going out with your lovelife online you cannot fully trust anybody.
I'm really sorry this happened to you. I'm proud that you figured it out that the person was being fake. Thankfully you figured it out sooner than later. Or else the pain would be worse, as your feelings for the person would have been deeper. It's unfortunate that the person you loved is a fake one and not the real one. I wonder why they lied. Anyways. Remember, Love is a choice and I see that you made the choice to let them go and not Love them anymore, after what happened to you, after they hurt you. I understand your heart is broken because Love is still Love. This is a loss. Loss comes with grief. Let yourself grieve or else you will be filled with grief forever. I'm glad you are not gonna let this one instance change how you see people. It is true that the world out there can be bad. Remember that there are good people too out there. I hope you find good people. I'm glad your loved ones helped you along the way. Please get all the help you can
I'm proud of you for your choices (to not continue loving them after their lies). I'm proud of you for your bravery, to still go on and date, which is not easy after bad experiences. I'm proud of you for being very self aware. You seem like a smart and sensitive person. I'm sure you will find someone who matches you and doesn't hurt you and takes care of you
Definitely is a grieving process most definitely and yes my feelings are very valid indeed I appreciate you reaching out and being proud of me for noticing the red flags before it got even deeper in love and we weren't technically a couple as of yet but we were friends we had been for a while and it's unfortunate that I began to see the red flags when I did and I'm thankful for those around me that helped me see that as well and I know it's not easy to admit that it is fake I mean in your thoughts you don't really want to believe something like that especially when you're wanting something so genuine and real that you don't want to put yourself through the pain and loss of it but you have to go through it whether you want to or not but I'm thankful that I have all of you on here to talk through it and all my loved ones and the people that I'm closest to in my life to help me through the pain and it's going to take me a little while to get through it but I know that I can I'm just glad I came on here to write about it on here because I knew that I would get lots of love and support from all of you guys and all my friends on here as well I'm 35 and I'm fairly new to the dating scene and I know that my beautiful partner out there I know she's out there somewhere it's just a matter of finding her and it actually being real and genuine I'm so full of love that I want to be able to share it and I want to be loved as well I have so much love to give that I want to be able to share it with those around me and my beautiful partner💗💗💗
It's ok to vent and cry, I have been there before it's never what I wish anyone to go through, I'm glad you find out before time.
Sending love and light your way dear, heal and be happy again, you deserve it.
I'm so sorry that you had to go through that too it totally is awful and unexplainable like nobody should ever go through that people are just stupid sometimes and there's no Rhyme or Reason for it that's just plain painful and hurtful to put someone through that for no reason especially for those like myself and for your and for you you're looking for genuine relationships that is the real thing sending you lots of love friend thank you for reaching out I appreciate it
I'm the kind of woman that does not put up with b******* like that from people like I don't want to waste my time on people like that and it's really hard not to know if if it's real or not or whatever just sort of hit you in the face and it's not fun
Thank you everyone for thinking of me and giving me comforting words and love it definitely is not easy to experience such a harsh thing right off the bat just starting out dating definitely not what I want to do experience the first time around we weren't really dating as of yet we were just getting to know each other as friends and like warm up to each other so that definitely helped in some way not being In Too Deep of a relationship but just really sucks because it can't really trust anyone but you have to be vulnerable enough to to let love warm or else nothing happens you can't just sit there and not do anything💗💗💗
Love is a huge thing in the world and it's a gift that you can be able to love people and that's one of the things that I love about the world is that you have the ability to love someone and to be loved back💗💗💗
@LovelyFrog8934
oh my gosh I’m so sorry to hear that. That must have been hard I get it online dating can be very scary.
Yeah it's very hard indeed and being someone that is super super lovable and deeply feels things it definitely hurts a whole lot I'm not going to lie it hurts like *** and I'm not going to sugar coat that and being someone that's very genuine and loving and caring and hold all her emotions on her shoulder and her heart it is definitely hard having someone like that treat you like that and then end up not being the person that you thought they were and that goes for anyone and I'm not someone that's going to mess around and deal with all those fake people it's just kind of hard to pick out the weeds out of the flowers you know cuz you never know who's the flower and who's going to be the weeds that was something that my mom had said you have to pick out the weeds before you can get to the flower basically and another saying that I like to say is that I'm a love bug out of all of a world of cockroaches LOL I absolutely love being a love bug and I would never change that for anything in the world it's just really hard to attract love bugs rather than cockroaches LOL
@LovelyFrog8934
Well Frog - Bad experiences are also experiences - are they not - maybe to learn from. LOL - I would very much like to live a life with just good experiences!!! In Norway where I live we say that when you kiss a frog he/she will turn into a prince. My friend is very pure in her thoughts. One night she came to us, we had a party - and she told. Oh! I saw 2 frogs, one was smaller than the other. The big one carried the small one on her back! Another person in the party, who knew more of nature replied - The frog was not carrying the small one around - they were having s+ex!
@LovelyFrog8934 I feel this. I had a very similar experience where I rushed too quickly into something and it left me hollow, jaded and untrusting of even my own friends and family. The best thing I could advise is to not get into a relationship until you yourself are secure mentally and in your life circumstances, don't make a mistake and try to build a new tower without a solid foundation. Once you're there, you can try again and bounce back much more easily.
Went to my counselor yesterday so that I can continue to process all my emotions and feelings and thoughts feeling very emotionally exhausted right now dumped out ALOT yesterday
Definitely going to take me awhile to bounce back from all of it body feels very tired
Self care is definitely important ð©·ð©·ð©·ð©·ð©·
