I can’t get through the death of my husband
My husband died 3 years ago. Our son was 2. Our marriage was over, we were very unhappy but with him being sick I stayed by his side till his last breath.
I moved on quickly and I’m in a fantastic relationship with a wonderful man but 2 weeks ago my husbands father died and it’s brought a lot of tough feelings back to the surface.
I’ve been struggling to find the right therapist for myself but it seems like such a tedious process. I just have no clue where to start. I have a great psychiatrist but my appointments with him are always very short and focus on meds (which I do need) but I feel like I need talk therapy as well. I have insurance but it’s still been a task.
@Snappysnake
There are therapists here you can contact here... also we we have listeners available for you also 🌲
I know, I can’t afford the therapy atm and I e tried listeners but never get a response. I have an appointment set for Friday to start therapy thankfully but it doesn’t help me now .
I know, I can’t afford the therapy atm and I e tried listeners but never get a response. I have an appointment set for Friday to start therapy thankfully but it doesn’t help me now .
@Snappysnake
It is hard to find a good fit. in the meantime, sometimes journaling helps get your thoughts in order. sometimes reading our own thoughts helps see the view from an outside perspective.
Remember when you do find someone you will know and can move on if it is not the right fit. You are the customer and the customer is right.
Dear @snappysnake
I'm so sorry you're carrying all of this. Losing someone while your relationship with them was already so painful is its own particular kind of grief — it doesn't cancel out or simplify anything, it just makes it more layered. And it makes complete sense that your father-in-law's passing would stir all of that back up, even years later and even while you're happy in your new relationship. Grief doesn't move in a straight line, and old losses can resurface without warning.
On finding a therapist — I know the search itself can feel exhausting when you're already running on empty. A few things that might make it less overwhelming:
• Ask your psychiatrist if he can recommend someone he's worked with before. That's often faster than starting from zero.
• Check your insurance company's website — most have a searchable directory where you can filter by specialty (look for "grief" or "complicated grief") and see who's in-network.
And one thing worth remembering: you don't have to find "the one" on your first try. The first session or two is really just about seeing if it feels like a good fit — it's completely normal to try someone and decide they're not right for you.
You're not doing anything wrong by needing more support than medication alone can give you. Talk therapy alongside your psychiatrist sounds like exactly the right instinct.
