I don't even know anymore
So much has happened....I don't know what to do anymore...the people who were supposed to help made things worse...I know what I need and I can't get it. Worked my whole life and lost EVERYTHING due to making the choice to leave my abusive husband.....I failed myself....I failed my cats...I will never get anything back and I am pretty certain this is what I'm stuck with...if I get one more you're strong you'll get there etc in lieu of advice I will lose it....I don't do online anything...I am private...and here I am because I don't even know ...
@Squirrelgrrl
I can relate the whole cheerleader "you got this" does not help when you are not able to do the things you want. it is hard to leave an abusive situation so that is an accomplishment and now it is another rough road to start over....
when we are looking back at all the things we had and lost either in a situation like your or others ... the could have or should have ideas keep us looking back ... not forward. you cannot move forward until you let go of the what things used to be. it is different for everyone and many say "your strong" simply because they do not know how to help you..... if you have solid things they can do ask them for that instead of the cheerleader routine.
@Squirrelgrrl
Well, that sucks.
So, you had a s"""y situation with an abusive husband. That was unfair.
And to get out of that s""""y situation, you lost everything. So not fair.
Totally understandable to feel *** off, fed up, miserable or whatever.
And totally OK to feel resentful of those who try to jolly you out of it.
I doubt I can help at all, either.
But totally OK for you to share more about how unfair it all is.
I'm sorry about your cats. I have cats, and my heart aches for anyone who had to lose theirs.
You really sound like you could use a hug. Would you like one?