Introducing myself
Hi everyone,
I'm new to 7 cups and wanted to say hi. I'm 38, single and live alone. I've had longer term relationships in the past, but have been single for 6 years.
I have depression and this makes it harder for me to get out there and socialise. I feel pretty lonely and isolated at the moment, and not sure what I need to do to feel better about my life.
In my darker days, I worry that I've really messed up my life. I've kind of accepted I might never have a partner again, but then what do I do? How do I fill my time, with no partner or family?
@GinJones2
it is hard to navigate relationships when you have bouts of depression ... in the midst we worry about time passing nothing getting better etc....
We do not feel at all like we can physically get out there ... but often pushing myself out of my cocoon is what ends my depressive state .... start small find joy/ hobby and do things with YOU ... your own best friend ..
I find looking for friends or a relationship is like going into a store in search of an article of clothing ........... we have in our minds what we are looking for ... but nothing in the first store is even close ... we need to decide then .... do we search other stores or online ? .........to find the item we pictured or settle for close enough but not perfect.
Then some other day you go into store that item out of your head and you are picking up something else and There right out in front is the exact item you pictured.
you will find things in life or they come into your life....... not always when you want them but sometimes when you are not even looking .
Hi GinJones,
thanks for sharing your story.
I am single since nine years now and I am feeling like I will always stay single. I made the wrong choices in men. Well, I am in a moderate to severe depression, so it is probably not the best time to get into a relationship. Maybe my Asperger’s syndrome is an issue, too. Over time my social anxiety and body issues became worse. And of course I do fell for the guys out of my reach. I need time to get over a crush even though I wasn’t even dating him. Unfortunately I made a fool of myself, again .
And I do have the same fear of being on my own for the rest of my life. Well, I have never been in a relationship longer than nine months, so I do feel like a looser regarding to my social life. And I’m two years older than you, so my time to start a family is really limited. But my mental issues are probably a lot to get along with.
Thank you GinJones,
that you gave me the courage to share my situation. I’m glad that I can be anonymous. But it is the first time that I have exposed myself to humans and not just to an AI.
