Please help. Confused and depressed.
I know a guy for over five years (we used to have a thing go out spent every nye together) i did everything for him... help him spoilt him and always be there for him.... let him borrow money (i never ask for it back) spent over 9k on him (happy to spend on him)..... im the kind of person that will always be there for anyone no matter what happens even if they dont want anything to do with me.....
We last saw each other 2 weeks ago when his son and my kids stayed at his house. Last night he txt me n told me to leave his clothes (1 pants 2 t-shirt n 2 boxers) i have off his outside n he pick it up....i told him i understand even tho things dont work out im so happy n glad he still wanna be my mate n keep in touch now n then....
he said thanks for understanding hes good stay good cant promise that. Also said he need to take control of everything around him....
I txt back All good it doesnt matter if he cant promise that we be mate or see each other again..... im gonna still keep all my promise i make to him..... to just focus on himself n his life im still here n will wait i told him i believe we'll see each other n be mate again one day.... good night n take care
He told me to respect his words hes not gonna be around and glad i understand. He said he doesnt want to go back and forth n make decision long since....
I txt him and told him even he doesnt want anything to do with me i always gonna be here for him.... i ask him to delete all the video of me especially all the video of us in bed (ya know) n thanks him n ask him if i could have the necklace that he always wear (i gave it to him) to remember him by n said my goodbye.... he said he deleted the video n took the necklace off.....
I dont understand what i did to him. I dont understand why he just cut me off like that why he wants nothing to do with me or dont want to be my mates im so confused.... what should I do? Any help much appreciate it. Thanks
@brightPond6255 Hi there, I am so sorry to read what has been going on. Have you heard from him since? How do you feel now?
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@brightPond6255 Wow. That sounds like a very abrupt goodbye, and a huge loss for you! I'm sorry that he just cut things off with you like that. I think I would feel confused and hurt. How are you feeling now?
You sound like a very generous, giving person. It's so admirable that you want to stay in touch and still be friends with him. It seems like you've given a lot and he hasn't given very much in return.
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Im sorry you feel this way. I know what you mean, after five years that you have invested in him and always gave gave gave. I know your intentions were good, but his wasn’t.
Take this time to learn about yourself and what you deserve in a relationship. If he comes back, he will continue to take from you because you allow it and became so available to him.
Boys take from anyone who gives, Masculine men treat , protect and give to their lady.
I’m speaking from experience hope you overcome this ❤️🌹
Aw you poor dear 😢 I'm sorry to hear that. Maybe this is a blessing in disguise since you've invested financially in him and he didn't return the favor. You sound like you have a good heart. You deserve someone worthy of that heart. I hope you feel better in the near future. Hang in there. Se day you'll forget all about him.
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@brightPond6255 Hey, I'm so sorry that you had to go through that. I would be very shocked if something of that magnitude happened to me. I hope you are coping with is well. Don't let what happened scar you forever. I know it must be very hurtful when you realize what happened.
