I don’t know how to feel.
Hello :(
Sigh so earlier today, the guy that I ended friendship with messaged me today with a paragraph of him apologizing to me and told me that he missed me. I thanked him for the apology and we’ve been texting ever since this morning but I’m still hurt and angry because of how he wasted my time and knew that I liked him and wouldn’t tell me his relationship status etc. It just doesn’t feel right. I’ve been crying again now I don’t know what to do. I don’t think I can trust him or be friends with him again because there’s too many red flags he has. One which is not being open and telling me stuff I need to know.
I’m really confused on why all of a sudden he apologized and said he missed me/ missed texting me.
The emotions I feel right now are feeling as if he just wants to keep me around for his convenience when nobody else is texting him. I feel angry still and just done. I don’t trust anybody anymore so the apology today was just Idk because how can I even trust someone. What if he does the same thing again? What if he wastes my time again?
He apologized for asking me for n*des and stuff like that. As I said, I thanked him for the apology. But what do I do now? Do I be friends with him again or stop responding to his messages and go back to not talking because I feel so out of place.
Before he sent apology, as some of you may know, he was texting me, trying to get me to respond. Which I didn’t respond. If I did, I ended up deleting the messages because I figured it wasn’t worth my time when he didn’t know what he wanted.
I’m just tired of people treating me like I don’t matter or have feelings and that them thinking one day all of a sudden, I’ll be cool with being friends again but deep down I’m not because he wasted my time, disrespected me and asked for inappropriate pictures. I know he apologized but I just feel overwhelmed and confused. Then in the paragraph he had said that I wasn’t like the other girls because of how I was and stuff like that. Meaning I was different from them?
This whole thing just makes me feel bad and I’m so tired of people treating me like this.
I cried because of how people treat me like this and I wonder when am I ever gonna be treated like how I treat people? When am I ever gonna feel real love where I’m the only person they are talking to and they are not some player just trying to lure me back into their trap.
The guy sounds creepy. He probably asks many women for ***. My own ex husband didn't even ask me for nude pics when we were married. Why is that acceptable these days?
I mean think about it...you're already stressing over the way this guy treats you and it's just the beginning. He wouldn't share his relationship status with you. Does that sound like a decent guy? He probably knows that you're way into him and that'll feed his ego while he uses you. Don't fall for it. Go for the nice guy who tells you he's not seeing anyone because he's only interested in you.
You sound like a nice lady. I hope you know your worth. Good luck 🙂
I just said nude pics. Idk why that was censored.
@SweetPea321 Thank you so much 🤧 and yeah if there was a guy that told me they were only interested in me I would go for them but I haven’t found a good guy like that. I don’t know what to do in this situation. I can’t trust or believe him. He apologized for asking for n*des but idk. Can’t trust them at all because I feel like they are using me for their own convenience to just keep me around to text when nobody else is talking to them at the moment. It’s messed up. He says he’s not using me or anything and just likes talking to me but I can’t believe anything he says…
Well I can't tell you what to do, my friend. You gotta make the choice to settle for this shady guy or wait for someone better. I'm 43 and have had my share of shady men. I refuse to go through unnecessary heartache anymore. I'd rather be alone than worrying about a bad guy constantly. I sleep soundly at night knowing there isn't some d-bag out cheating on me.
@SweetPea321 Yes ik that is true, we aren’t in a relationship though- We aren’t anything btw. He just had messaged me sending the apology message. I’m not settling for him because I’m not even dating him or anything like that. And same here, because it’s better being alone than trying to stay with somebody who cheats and doesn’t know what they want or wasted peoples time.
It sounds like you want to be seen for who you are and genuinely valued - rather than regarded as a convenience or second choice. You totally deserve people to treat you that way, and if they don't, it's a reflection of their issues, not who you are. It's hard to draw boundaries around yourself sometimes. What would be your ideal outcome.
@Cradlehag93 Yes you are completely right. I want to be seen and genuinely valued and not be a second choice or just there for someone else’s convenience to text when bored because I have feelings and it hurts when people treat me like this. I hope one day I can find someone who knows exactly what they want just like I do and are only interested in me and no one else.
Trying to find real love in this generation is just awful because most of the time, people don’t even take it seriously or they mess around with a thousand of people at once and are not committed to just one person. :(
@strwberryhearts when he says you are not like other girls, he means that you are listening to him and that may seem normal to you but it is hard to find a person that listens nowadays. Considering your situation, I suggest you talk to him now because it will continuously make you feel miserable and the other person will continue to take advantage of you by being nice. Please prioritise yourself and don't start talking to him just because he has apologised for past acts. I am saying this from experience, but he will also try to do the same in the future.
@optimisticPomegranate3875 Hello, thank you for explaining 🤧🤍 And yes that is true. We just finished talking right now and I told him that I don’t think we can be friends again because he hurted my feelings and was disrespectful to me before he apologized. And how I didn’t want him to do it again so I said we should stop talking etc for he wouldn’t hurt my feelings again. He got upset I guess, and just blocked me. So that’s that.
And before he blocked me he said “I’m not hurting you actually” and then he said “u doing that towards yourself”. Then said “do whatever you want, I’ll help you out” and then said Goodbye and blocked me just because I told him we couldn’t be friends again. But now it’s a relief again tbh I don’t have to worry about someone who doesn’t care anything about me and just keeping me around for their convenience even though he said he wasn’t but I couldn’t trust him or believe him again because of all the stuff he said to me the first time we had started talking/ getting to know eachother.
@strwberryhearts You are so smart. Good job.
@reliableWest8997 Thank you 🤧🤍
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strawberry :
I am inviting you to join me in the Sharing Circle chat room where you can meet other 7Cups members that will listen to you and support you ! 😊
@hounddog2021 Okay, thank you so much, I appreciate that!! :) 🤍
