50+ Daily Check-In October 4, 2021
Happy Monday to everyone in the 50+ community. I hope you all enjoyed your weekend and you are all doing well 😊
What makes self love important to you? What do you think about how it impacts your mind and also your body?
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Not doing so well, need to find help.
Am so sorry to hear you aren't doing well. We all are here for you. Feel free to pm me if you care to talk about it.
Love
Tani
Thanks, I don't have the energy to tell my story at time, especially typing.
I understand. But am here if you need me.
@ruffneckred, I prayed for you. I hope you find help. Do you need a listener or some other kind of help? Maybe you can begin with a listener, and they can help you find some further help, if that is what you need.
Thanks, I have long term listener but she has been busy living her own life. I don't have the energy to share my convoluted story. Especially typing or thumbing. What I need is guidance to get away from her. Trying to figure out what to do gives me anxiety that I struggle to deal with. Trying to talk to her just ends up disliking myself more, when she talks at all. But Thanks for the prayers, I lost my faith some time ago. But my logical mind see value in positive thoughts.
@ruffneckred
Hi again.
Beautiful @purpetree gave you such a caring answer and I'll write a bit more.
When you get anxiety - remember to breath! It is important!
This listener; don't talk to her anymore! It seems it is time for you to seperate. Enjoy what was good and move on.
From Helga.
I totally agree with Helga.
Do choose to talk to anyone of us.
@ruffneckred
I'm so sorry to hear you're not well, hugs, and also about the bad experience with your listener. Kindly do make a review so this listener can get a mentor and grow and to better. I hope you will regain energy and be able to talk again. Please don't let this experience prevent you from reaching out to get help. We are here for you to support you 💙
Agree 💯 👍
@purpleTree4652
Excellent supporting purpleTree.
From your good friend Helga.
Hugs to you @suffered.
@ruffneckred
Friend!
I'm sad to hear that you're not doing so good. I hope you'll find some hope and help here at 7Cups. Life goes up and down (for us all?) I think. In the meantime maybe you'll let me bring you a carpet and a cup of chocholate and we can talk a bit or not.
From your sister Helga.
Please Helga can I join in. I will bring an Indian savory made by me.
🌹😍🌹
@RideaRainbow
Yes, please do @RideaRainbow. We'll have a party!!!
Yayyyyyy
@ruffneckred
So sorry that you are not doing well. Is there anything that you would care to talk about that may help you feel better? I know it can be hard to talk about stuff that bothers us but I think you are in a safe and caring atmosphere here and we are willing to listen or to just sit and hold your hand to get get you over the hump. May be even a one on one chat ❤️
Self love is very important, if you love yourself then the negative thoughts that try to break in start to quiet down. I have been beating myself up since I started having anxiety. really trying to be accepting of challenges and embrace it.
@discreetMelon5938
Hi.
I think you are very clever in working with your personality/Identity.
Hi AMI, I hope you are well and had a good weekend.
What makes self-love important to you? What do you think about how it impacts your mind and also your body?
My self-love care kind of sucks, the lack of it makes me angry at myself leaving me feeling empty. even though I know that I should indulge myself in it. I feel guilty when I put my needs before others. I think that came from a scripture out of the Bible that may have been taken out of context.
@scarletPear1945, In my opinion most of us end up carrying the words/advice we heard to the next level because it connected and triggered a part of you maybe your compassion, your fear , your love ..... . Well, you are aware of it , so you can slowly wean yourself from this situation and start doing small things for yourself. Start with a simple gesture like thanking yourself and buy yourself a nice healthy lunch❤️
@faithlove1111
Thank you for the reminder and thoughtful words. Food for life: It is one thing to be able to know what to do and another to do it. Learning these Life Lessons can prove to be very costly. Realizing that I can not help anyone until I first help myself has been a very hard lesson to change. I really thought that everyone's needs were more important than my own. That was instilled in me as a young child. Through church doctrine that was wrong, Once faulty information is downloaded into the subconscious mind, we act on it as if it were truth because the brain does not recognize it is not true. Now I am having to tear down the lie and begin by feeding my mind the truth and it takes practice daily. Also the ability to set boundaries is essecintial to my well-being. For without the boundaries I wind up being victimized for the lack of it.
Thank you all for helping me see that.❤️
@scarletPear1945
Christian friend.
The Master Himself, Jesus Christ says: "Love your neighbour AS yourself." Not HIGHER THAN yourself. Please remember that.
@scarletPear1945
ScarletPear1945, you're worth of self care, we all are and feeling angry for not having done it is a sign to me that your subconscious mind is trying to tell you how important it is and that your interpretation of that scripture needs to change. There is a saying "Selfcare is giving the world the best of you, not what is left of you". Hugs.
@amiablePeace77
Hi Ami:
This is an area where I really fall short. I am not now, nor have I ever been, a self-love type of person.
To the contrary, I am often telling myself what a loser I am.
Intellectually, I understand I am much better off than many. Emotionally, however, I feel pathetic.
@UberRuminator
Thank you for telling.
But please, NEVER tell yourself you are a l... Please STOP! that. I get hurted just by seing you are writing that. You are a wonderful person made by God and there is only one of you at this earth.
I like that you have a bright mind. Emotionally? Maybe you mature at a late age (I do too).
Well - it is good training for you to express yourself a little bit (or much) here at 7Cup.
From Helga.
@amiablePeace77, 1. What makes self love important to you?
It makes me feel better than anyone in my life ever could.
2. What do you think about how it impacts your mind and also your body?
I know it’s good for me.
@purpleTree4652, Well said indeed 👍
@amiablePeace77, Years ago,I did not know self love but was more busy sacrificing or giving up my own needs to eep the relationships around me in balance but that changed as I realised how unfair and what a task master I have been to myself. Nowadays, I listen to myself and try to do something good for myself both in the macro and micro sense.😃. I does feel good as I can see how my mind and thought patterns changed and the positive ripple effect it has not only toward myself but in my relationship with others.👌
@faithlove1111
Good self care brings a lot of good change in us which spreads to the outside. I'm glad you care now for your needs!
What makes self love important to you? What do you think about how it impacts your mind and also your body?
It's important - if I felt better about myself, I could have done more. I would have tried more and not felt like a failure from the outset.
I would have had more confidence and I would have pursued more friendships, especially with women. I always wanted friendships with women and maybe even a romantic relationship, but never felt that they would have liked me.
I would have tried harder at a career, and not given up, thinking I couldn't do it anyway.
@WharfRat
You are really opening up your heart here @WharfRat.
I hope you know that God/Jesus Christ loves you.
My heart goes out to you.
Helga.
I have read about Pistanthrophobia and then I found a quiz about it, my result was:- Listen, it's time you shaped up. You're not being completely honest with yourself. You've been trained to deny your own subjective experience. Begin to consciously feel what you feel, know what you know, and articulate whatever you really mean. As you do this, the frequent betrayals that afflict you will become clear, and you'll be able to avoid them.
@DinaElwy
Very good DinaElwy - things for many of us to work on our whole life.
From your friend Helga.
