50+ Weekend Check-In October 22-24, 2021
Hello everyone in the 50+ community 💙
Everyone did things in their lives they are not proud of and might want to have never happened. We cannot undo actions from the past nor can we take back words we said and which might have hurt others. Carrying this guilt can become quite a burden of shame and anger directed towards ourselves.
To be in a better place emotionally we need to forgive yourselves and also others who wronged us. You cannot enjoy the benefits of forgiveness entirely until you’ve learned how to forgive yourself.
What is something you want to forgive yourself for or someone else (without going into too much into detail)?
How does forgiveness feel to you?
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@amiablePeace77 thanks for this thread.
What is something you want to forgive yourself for or someone else (without going into too much into detail)?
All the times I got angry in my life.
How does forgiveness feel to you? I prefer the term letting go and acceptance. I feel freer when I let go of the things that weigh me down.
@soulsings
Nice soul, not carrying those burdens is healthier too.
@amiablePeace77, What is something you want to forgive yourself for or someone else (without going into too much into detail)?
I want to forgive myself for not putting myself before my ex-husband. I gave up my life for him.
How does forgiveness feel to you?
bittersweet
@purpleTree4652
PurpleTree - my wonderful friend always. I'm a little bit confused here. I always thought of you as a man - you are?
Best wishes from Helga.
@purpleTree4652
I guess you did what felt right at that time but hope you will not neglect yourself anymore.
@amiablePeace77
Wonderful answer @amiablePeace.
@purpleTree4652
In all case - if you are a man or a woman - we are the brides of Jesus Christ, made in the complete picture of God.
From your sister in Jesus Christ (because it seems to me that you maybe is a woman as I am).
I would like to forgive myself for all the idiotic things I've done that ruined my life - cost me peace of mind, friends, jobs, money, etc. Therapy is helping me with that. I hope that by the time it's over, if it ever is, I will feel like a lot of junk will be cleared from my mind/brain.
@WharfRat
I wish we all could undo things which were not so good in the past but we can't. However, you did well by reaching out to get the right support!
@WharfRat
What a wonderful insight you have come to see @WharfRat. I have been to different counseling during my life. (Have you had it for a long time?)
Helga.
@Helgafy Thank You - I've been seeing m current therapist since early last year, but for over a year we had to do our sessions through text chats because of the pandemic. I've also been going to peer-to-peer group meetings a few times a week, for a few months at a time. since last year. That place was also closed for months at a time because of the pandemic.
@WharfRat
Hi!
Yes the pandemic has been influencing all of the society - hospitals, buisness, all kind of things. Thank you for telling me about your therapy though.
Hi everyone, I hope someone can tell me what to do next. I have been an active listener and I have taken the AL2 test and I have posted on the thread that I completed it when I was done, but now I don't know who to get in touch with to see if they received it or passed it etc.. I will take it over no problem but it says not to do that if you have already taken it and submitted.
Can anyone please steer me in the right direction.
@bouncyBeach42
Hi bouncyBeach42. I just send you a pm regarding your question.
@amiablePeace77 Hi amiablePeace77. Thank you for sending me a private message (PM?), but and I am sorry I know this is ridiculous but how do I get to my PM? I obviously missed something in training. Can you tell me how I get to your PM that you sent me.
@bouncyBeach42
Hi - you find the message where you found all the pm you got from the people you listened to!
@amiablePeace77
Hi @amiablePeace.
You are so kind in trying to help bouncyBeach.
@amiablePeace77
A love photo.
What is something you want to forgive yourself for or someone else (without going into too much detail)? Really? Nothing.
How does forgiveness feel to you? Very good.
@Offmytrack
I agree forgiveness feels good, it allows us to move on.
As I often say, forgiveness can truly be freeing.
I'd like to forgive myself for not achieving the goals I put in place, at the end of the day I'm still making progress with other things, I'm still doing well, it's okay that some parts went unfinished. ❤️
Well wishes to you all.
@robynlouise
Nice that you focus on the progress and don't get caught up in what has not been done!
