50+ community Check-in August 26-29, 2019
Good morning and hello everyone in 50+ community. Hope you all had a nice weekend. 
Today I like to ask you this question, it's not an easy one and might need reflection but it can give useful hints to why sometimes do not feel all that well but there seems to be no apparent reason.
What deep needs do you have that aren't getting met and what could you do to meet them?
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@amiablePeace77 good question. I will have to think about that one. I may have to journal about that.
@soulsings
Yes it's a very good question. I have to think about this too. 😲😲👍👍!!!!
@soulsings
Journalling is always a good idea.
@amiablePeace77 I'll have to think about this question also.
Love, support, intimacy
Finding my purpose
@shyCat542
Very good!!!!👍👍👍
@shyCat542
To live our best lives we need purposes, I hope you will find it soon. 
What are your core values, what are you particularly passionate about?
@Kavajava
I hope you feel loved and supported here in our community but I also hope that you will get your needs met in your real life.
@amiablePeace77 Someone said finding a purpose,I think that applies to me also. Maybe doing some volunteer work will be helpful in that area. (I have to get up the nerve to do it. Also some people have creative hobbies,I think that would be something helpful also.
@adventurousBranch3786 good idea. It also gives us a new focus for our life.
@adventurousBranch3786
Those are great ideas. I find doing volunteer work helped me a lot to find meaning in life again. Is there anything you are very passionate about?
Creative hobbies are awesome too to express emotions.
Unconditional Love
Maybe get a cat or dog
@mutter3
Cats and dogs don't judge, they just love you back. What type of cat or dog would you get?
@amiablePeace77 wire haired dachshund or Norweigen Forest cat
I have a rescued stray Boxer dog, he was on death row, I named him Walter after Walter white in breaking bad!!@mutter3
@mooboxer I would get a rescue animal. So many that need homes. Is your Boxer Brindle??
@mutter3
Yes he is and he had a lovely wavy tail with s white splodge on the top which looks like a perescope when he walks round the table @mutter3
@mooboxer
Thank you for adopting a stray dog!
This is our 3rd rescued Boxer a lot of people think they are soft and like to clown around but Boxers are highly sensitive and can be very difficult to cope with if they are damaged and are hurt. Our last Boxer Mookie had a fun pellet in his back so heavens knows what he had been through so thanks for your kind words @amiablePeace77
Sorry typo it wasnt a fun pellet it was gun pellet sadly@mooboxer
@mooboxer oh no how sad they must have been shot!
@mooboxer
Mookie was shot?! That's terrible! He/she is in dog heaven now amongst lots of other dogs.
Well to be true he
@mooboxer
he lived at a good age and in wonderful care ♥
@mutter3
the dachshund is such a loving dog and what an adorable cat, the fluffy norwegian forst cat - awesome!
@amiablePeace77 I am a huge fan of Jesperpus and Kasper
Freedom and companionship and I can do nothing about it...
@freshFlower6438
Peacefulness too but that is implied...
@freshFlower6438
Flowers, it sounds like you feel trapped (Hugs if you accept) and that must make your life difficult. Where could be the key to open the prison to get freedom?
@amiablePeace77
If I only knew I would have used it...😔 or not...some entrapped beings do not want to come out of their traps even when you open the door because they don't know better anymore...ty for taking time to reply to people, it is very kind and nice of you🤗
The legacy I will leave my children and grandchildren.
@amiablePeace77
Today is good. Past several days have been dark but today the light started seeping in.
Clean and spend time with my granddaughter.
Rest
@amiablePeace77
@prodigalprincess
No darkness stays forever, there will always be light again. Glad you're better. How old is your granddaughter?
That
@shyCat542
Big Hugs cat . Hope this site will bring some light into your life.
Ooh, deep needs. My deepest need is for someone to love and care for me, no matter how badly I am feeling. I am 65 now, and don't have someone like that. I do have someone who crossly lists all of my detriments, and sometimes gets mad about them. Really doesn't help.
@Offmytrack I am so sorry you are receiving harmful comments that do not help your self esteem. It is not easy when relationships get negative. It is never a simple answer. In some ways online friends can take the place of what we are missing in life and real life activities can reaffirm who we really are. These can be so different depending on each person. Hope you get the support you are seeking.
Thank you, @soulsings. It is nice to get someone to speak to me without the difficulties I have been encountering.
@Offmytrack you are welcome.
I have a gratitude practice. It is not easy to find what I am grateful for, but gratitude is a more joyful way to live life. I keep trying every day to see the half of the glass that is full.
We have an open chat at 6:30 PM EDT which is in 80 minutes in Fifty Plus room that opens 5 minutes before that since it is a popup room.
@Offmytrack. I understand. You are not alone. I
Thanks @shyCat542, Fortunately my relationship is improving. Things seem to be going better these days.
Thank you all. The kind words said here are helpful. Life is so difficult and this room is so nice
@shyCat542
HUGS cat and thank you. I hope being here will help you to deal with your challenges in life.