50+ community Check-in January 11-14, 2021
Happy Monday to everyone in the 50+ community. I hope you all enjoyed your weekend and you are all doing well 
Cry it out 
Before you can let go of a negative situation, you have to feel it fully 
and crying can be a soothing way to purge sad feelings and actually make yourself feel better. Did you know that studies have shown that tears actually rid the body of chemicals that raise cortisol, the stress hormone?
How do you deal with emotional pain? What helps you best?
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@amiablePeace77
How do you deal with emotional pain? What helps you best?
Well, I used to be a huge crier. Crying helps a lot. But lately my anxiety has gotten so much in the way of it that I'm finding it hard to cry, or I'm crying at weird times. Like I was watching this movie over the weekend and it was something I'd seen a million times, wasn't really that kind of movie for crying, but I found myself gushing.
Maybe because of all the lockdown and everyone being together for so many months at home, I haven't had any alone time to cry to myself and freshen my spirits up. :)
@thoughtfulmomma
It must be hard to surpress your crying whilst your inside is hurting so much, hugs. I hope you will find a way to release your pain 
How do you deal with emotional pain? What helps you best? I tend to hide it inside of myself. I know it is not real, and what helps me best is my fiance' holding me.
@Offmytrack
I am glad you find so much comfort in the presence of your fiance.
I ran away with sleeping
@DinaElwy
DinaElwy, I can relate, that was my to-go routine as a teen and young person but it never made the pain go away, just lessen it for a while, how about you?
@amiablePeace77 I know but it's the only solution for me.
How do you deal with emotional pain? What helps you best?
I don't cry, I feel everything but that, My body does not like to let go. I find just cuddling with my cat or going for a walk in the woods helps sooth me.
@amiablePeace77, I honestly don't know how to deal with emotional pain.
I cried when I was young.
I can't remember the last time I cried, like really cried. I get kind of choked up sometimes and will shed maybe a tear or two. That's about it.
Sleeping had always been an escape. Walking helps also.
How do you deal with emotional pain? What helps you best?
I daydream or listen to music or both.
How do you deal with emotional pain? What helps you best?
Listening to upbeat music, and journal writing.
I find that I don't cry very much. Sometimes exercise is good. Better than other maladaptive strategies I won't mention here.
@amiablePeace77. I am a crier. Sometimes it helps, other times not so much. Sometimes I cry for long periods
@jr50
It must be awful crying for so long and just feeling the same pain as before, hugs.
Crying can help a lot to restore emotional balance and dull the pain but sometimes it's just not enough, the root of the pain wants to be addressed to. Do you find yourself crying often for the same reasons?
