50+ community Check-in Sept. 2-5, 2019
Hello 50+ people 
. Hope you are all doing okay and safe (those affected by the storm Dorian or other disturbing events).
What do you have to look forward to this week?
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@amiablePeace77 I know that I will be feeling very grateful all week as I watch the videos of devastation in the Bahamas.It seems that my city is going to be spared.
@adventurousBranch3786
It is terrible what happened in the Bahamas, I feel for the people there.
You're right, this puts everything into perspective again and reminds us of being grateful when spared out, our island surely was and I hope the best for you too.
@amiablePeace77
Beutiful flowers...just saying...😔
@softtiissue
Thanks 
hands over a virtual bouquet to softtiissue.
@amiablePeace77
In US it is short week so 4 days till the weekend!
But that means I have to fit whole week into 4 days instead of 5 so I better start practicing mindfulness.
@soulsings
In Paraguay they work Saturdays too...
@softtiissue wow so that is a longer week every week!
@soulsings
Yes it is and I remember the times when it was in my country too...
@softtiissue we need more time to make peace with ourselves.
@soulsings
Time is the thing that some of us don't have...
@soulsings
But I understand what you meant and politically is called transition...transition from a lowersociety to a higher one and yes it takes time...
@softtiissue there are great disparities in the world. I always remember a scene in the book by Viktor Frankl when his forced labor gang was enjoying the sunset after a hard days work with little food. For that one moment he and his co-prisoners were kids again.
I guess I do not want more time, I just want a brief moment of appreciating what is all around me before I have to get back with the challenges I face.
I hope you join me in a deep breath and let it out. This is the only moment there is.
I wish you a wonderful day wherever you must spend it.
@soulsings Viktor Frankl inspiring
@mutter3 yes love that story https://biographics.org/viktor-frankl-biography-life-search-meaning/
Here is the book about his experience "Man's Search for Meaning"
https://www.goodreads.com/author/quotes/2782.Viktor_E_Frankl?page=2
@soulsings Excellent book. Everyone should own a copy!!!!
I love the multiculturalism here , it
@soulsings
Mindfulness is always a good help, work and pause and start again (working on that one for myself 
)
Indeed wise words, it
@mooboxer
Sounds like a "snoring Orchestra" - headphones can be so useful
I look for to using the dammit doll when I go th therapy. I cant be mad anywhere else.
@Lauren63
How is that the dammit doll please?🙄 I only know of the curse tree from James Clavell
@Lauren63
Lauren, do you mean an "anger doll", the anger release tool? How does it work for you?
@amiablePeace77 Its a cloth doll. It has a saying that goes with it. Whenever things dont go so well,and you want to hit the wall & yell, heres the little dammit doll, that you cant do without. Just grasp it firmly by The legs, and find a place to slam it. And as you work the stuffing out, yell Dammit! Dammit! Dammit!. Thats what a Dammit doll is. Nothing gets hurt.
@Lauren63
Lauren sounds like a good alternative to other ways, surely better than hurting someone else. Hope it helps
@amiablePeace77 or myself.
@Lauren63
It's good you can use the doll instead , we care for you.
@amiablePeace77 this weekend not so good about that. But still here. So all good Got to work tomorrow. 2 rooms.. but at least I got a thank you note from my director saying thanks for helping with the staffing challenges. Not doing anymore. Other people can be stressed to the point of .. not caring.
@Lauren63
Lauren, you are right in taking care of yourself.
It's nice though that your director send you that note. Sounds like he knows that he can count on you.
A friend is coming Wednesday to help me clean💕💕
@mutter3
That's nice of your friend, cleaning together makes more fun and it's soooo good to sit down after everything is finished and relax with a cup of tea or coffee .
(Maybe put some nice music on when cleaning - shaking the broom to the right, to the left 
)
@amiablePeace77 😂😂💓
I'm looking forward to it being over. I am all alone, 3 cuncussions, Dave died 13 months ago, my aunt died last November, I moved in February so I don't know my neighbors, and then right after the year anniversary of Dave's death, my best friend decides that she can't be my friend anymore. And with that, both my brothers aren't talking to me, another friend cut communication. I'm beginning to think that I'm poisonous. Doesn't do any good for the mood and the anxiety. I just have to keep telling myself that I really am a good person. I can't take much more of this.
So sorry, you are in a tough place at the moment. We are all thinking of you on here and hoping your situation will improve. Moving to a new place is always hard at first . Im hoping when you feel better you can get out a bit and discover groups or volunteer work to enable you to meet new people. Until then happy to talk xxx@Cammiecat
@mooboxer . Thank you for thinking of me. I do get out. I go to the coffee shops where I feel like no one wants to talk to me. I also volunteer for the local chapter of NAMI. I produce their newsletter. I'm trying to streemline the project so that anyone can do it, but also have a little style to it. It's the only thing that makes me feel like I doing anything that has a purpose. I tried to volunteer for our local Peace and Justice Center but they just got a new director and she's just getting her feet under her. So volunteering there will have to wait.
Hi Cammie, could you tell me what NAMI is I don
My husband does the newsletter for his running club called The Bungay Black Dog running club@mooboxer
@mooboxer
@mooboxer Oops... Ok, NAMI, in America is the National Association on Mental Illness. They do Advocacy, Support, and Education. It's a great organization.
Ah thanks, friend forgive my ignorance x@Cammiecat
@mooboxer NAMI also has a following here at 7cups where a subcommunity has been formed.
https://www.7cups.com/home/nami/
@Cammiecat
Cammie, you are not poisonous, you are a good person having a lot of challenges to deal with HUGS. Don't let the negative voice in your head tell you anything else, shut it down. You are good, keep on telling it to yourself starting right in the morning and connect to someone here to chat when needed.
Is there anything you could do which gives you joy, or something you always wanted to try out, something new?
Volunteering here has helped me a lot to deal with what I have to face, have you ever thought about becoming a listener one day?
@amiablePeace77, I have thought about joining the 7 cups family in some capacity. I just don't know if I have what it takes to be a listener. I've had a couple of experiences with listeners that I've had to report. I would have to know a lot more about it to consider it.
@Cammiecat I have thought about volunteering also, but I am intimidated by the thought of being a listener.I found out that they have other volunteer jobs in the post Help Wanted September 2019.
@adventurousBranch3786 the subcommunities are a great place to volunteer without the responsibility of being a listener. If you would like to be a member leader in 50 plus I would very much like to work with you.
@soulsings Hi, what does a member leader do?
@soulsings Is the member leader similar to a forum supporter?
@adventurousBranch3786 a member leader can welcome new members, post to the forums, be supportive of other people posting, and other projects. Let me know your interests and I will be glad to work with you.
@Cammiecat
I believe you're a very compassionate person by wanting to help others. It would be great to have you in the listener community when you are ready to do this step. If you have questions you're very welcome to message me. There are several opportunities to support people as a member, one of them is also a member room supporter.
@amiablePeace77 . Can you tell me more about the member room supporter?
@Cammiecat
Hi Cammiecat . Here is a link which will give you more detailed information about member room supporter
Let me know if you need anything else
This week? I look forward to my music lesson and my therapy session. Not looking forward to anything else, It's all downhill this week.
@Offmytrack
HUGS offmytrack, hope the music and therapy lessons will make up for it!
What kind of music lesson if you don't mind me asking?
Thanks, @amiablePeace77. The lessons are supposed to be a combination of voice and writing songs, but they usually are just me playing for the teacher. She seems to like almost everything I play.
