50+ community Weekend Check-In July 2-4, 2021
Hi everyone, hope you're all safe and have a good weekend
What are 3 benefits of your current life situation?
What would you like to have different and how can you change it?
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@amiablePeace771. What are 3 benefits of your current life situation?
a. I can walk around inside where I live and feel comfortable doing so.
b. I can listen to music that I like without headphones.
c. I can keep my food in the fridge.
2. What would you like to have different and how can you change it?
I would love not to have mental health problems. There is no magic pill that will change it. I can only work on it.
@purpleTree4652
I wish I could give you that freedom from mental health problems but I'm glad that you come here to get support and support yourself. I also hope that mindfulness helps you to cope better.
Being able to keep food in the fridge is often underestimated, it's a great privilege to have a fridge like many other household items in my view. Nice that you mentioned this point.
@amiablePeace 3 benefits of my current situation 1. Recently retired 2. Mental health in a good place 3. Loving no responsibilities except to myself What would I like different? I’d like better physical health. I am actively working to make this happen.
@yzzil
Having good mental health when entering retirement is not something that happens all the time. I hope you enjoy your retirement
What are 3 benefits of your current life situation? I love my house. I love my fiance'. I am happy with my computer.
What would you like to have different and how can you change it? I would like to drive again. The only way is my fiance' moving out.
@Offmytrack
I feel happy for you having love in your life!
Have a great weekend
@hopperbc
Thanks, hope you had a great weekend too!
@amiablePeace77
What are 3 benefits of your current life situation? 1)have nice place to live, 2) can control temperature inside, 3) have place to sleep
What would you like to have different and how can you change it? Live in safe area of city or live in a safe, near by city. There is no way to change this at all
@Amelia2324, I can relate, Amelia. I need someone to share a place to live and the chances of finding someone safe and who I'm compatible with are slim. I wish you the best.
@purpleTree4652
purple, I also wish that you can find this too. It sure can make a big diff in your life, can't it? If you want, please let me know how it goes for you, if you'd like. This is so important and can mean so much. I hope you can find a place suitable for yourself purple. I really, really do. I wish you know of some place I could afford in St. Augustine, FL., next to Jacksonville.
@Amelia2324, I just moved to Jacksonville. I wish I knew of any affordable place either of us could live.
@Amelia2324
So so sorry that you're not having that safe place, hugs. I hope that coming here helps you to create a safe place inside
@amiablePeace77
have had to call Jacksonville Sheriff's Office, JSO, out to get info to file an injunction on someone with severe mental health issues that will not leave me alone. I have blocked their phones, both of their email accounts and they just continue to harass me. They change their numbers, make new email addresses, and constantly harass me. I have asked repeatedly to be not contacted ever again. This never does any good. they want to be friends with me and will not leave me alone. there are 2 peole doing this to me. Right now, I am filing the injunction on the most worst one on Tuesday, if the hurricane does not come through here and destroy everything Tues and Wed. Some people have so many severe mental illness that they can not see reality in any way and there is a lot that goes on with this, to say the least. I have been good, patient, caring, helpful, considerate, and more all I can. I have to save my sanity.
@Amelia2324
I can only imagine how annoying this situation is for you, please also see my today's pm.
Please be as safe as possible, I will keep you in my prayers, hugs.
Happy Sunday!
@joyousHug4511
Thanks joyousHug4511, I wish you a happy week
3 benefits 1. House paid off 2. Wiser as I get older 3. Almost to retirement I would like to have friends that I could count on. Trying to be more open, so people can get to know me better.
@Lauren63
Having no mortgage to pay when entering retirement is definitively a big plus. Good that you started opening up to people a bit more so they can see the nice person you are.
3 Benefits to my current situation...
1) I pay less rent here than I would if I lived in a nicer/safer area with better weather and things to do.
2) I have the freedom to do what I want all day, study when I want, sleep when I can, eat whenever, work whenever I feel my best, play video games or check out stuff online when I have no energy for anything else.
3) I won't be stuck in a marriage with someone who sided with my abusive ex and betrayed me.
@JustLondon
What I would like to be different is to have a life partner/wife who is loyal, trustworthy, respectful, etc... but I'm finding it really hard to find a dating site as an American lesbian over 50 with British lesbians under 40 who are looking to leave their country and move to America. Oh and she has to have blue eyes. I've waited all my life to be married legally, so I'm definitely getting what I want this time. Why don't they have a mail order bride service like this??
@JustLondon
Some of these great places surely come with very high rents and can put a lot of financial pressure on people. I hope that one day you will find a place in an affordable nice and safe area though. So so sorry about your marriage, I can only imagine your pains, hugs.
3 benefits: happy healthy kids. New job/career path starts tomorrow after 11 years with same company. Able to have amicable divorce and keep my house.
@littleTalker7635
Those a truly 3 big things to be grateful for!