50+ community Weekend Check-in February 14-16, 2020
Hello 50+ Community 
, I wish you all an awesome weekend.
Looking back at the last weeks, how much have you been a supporter to yourself and is there anything you have to forgive yourself for?
I have to forgive myself for not having been kind to me on some days and you?
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I have to forgive myself for try to participate in discussions, Or talking to other members. Must be frowned on.
@Lauren63you can talk to me anytime xx
@Lauren63 It is always nice to hear from you in discussions.
@Lauren63
Lauren,you are very hard on yourself, hugs. We are glad you participate in discussions, your comments are always very kind and helpful.
@amiablePeace77
The last few weeks I've actually been able to be a supporter of myself. They've just been small things really, but things that have mattered a lot to me. One thing that has helped me cope throughout my life is music, playing music. I grew up playing in an orchestra, then played guitar. Then life happened and very long story short, at the moment I only have a violin to play and I need to learn how to play it. 
So, I wasn't playing like I wanted to because where I'm at right now even taking the time to get it out of the case and get it set up to play was a deterrant. So I asked my husband to please hang it on the wall for me - and he did! Now all I have to do is grab it and play, and I have been! It's really been very healing for me to know that I can have things back in my life that have always been important to me and I'm not being selfish and I won't be punished for it.
@ShadesOfGrace Being able to play a musical instrument is a lovely thing I wish you lots of good and healing times with your violin!
@mooboxer
Thank you so much! I really have been enjoying it.
That
@mooboxer
Don't give up trying! Maybe the guitar wasn't the right instrument for you, but I'm convinced that anyone can learn to play something, even if it's only well enough for you to enjoy it for yourself. There are some instruments, like the autoharp, that produce lovely sounds and are easier to play because they've got buttons to push instead of actually fingering the strings. Keep looking and I'll be you'll find something to play! Hugs to you!
Thanks for you nice comments, sadly we
@ShadesOfGrace
I can see that music and playing an instrument is a very important part of your life. Glad you play again to help yourself healing. I agree, it's much easier to use something when it is easily available.
I have to forgive myself for thinking I have to be good at everything. I cannot do it all. Maybe I am not as good at things as I was twenty years ago but I do okay considering my challenges.
@HappyDucky8
Happy, doing okay when facing lots of challenges means doing very well.
I find I'm particularly hard on myself. I put alot of pressure on myself to perform and when I'm not perfect I tend to be pretty negative with the self talk.
I've been reading a bit about Compassion Therapy and Compassion Meditation (Loving Kindness). What has been most interesting to me is that we in the West are so hard on our selves that we really struggle with the concept of self-compassion.
I'm the poster child for that struggle.
@MissPen
Many people grow up learning the concept of an "achiever" not the concept of "contentment".
I hope that one day you will be the poster child for self-compassion.
@amiablePeace77 I have to forgive myself for just rushing some days and not remembering to "stop and smell the roses".
Yes that
@mooboxer that sounds like a wonderful thing to do for yourself.
@mooboxer glad you tagged me on this. Yes mindfulness keeps me grounded when my mind is figuring out "ways to fend off the next attack of aliens" just kidding but almost that bad.
@soulsings
Those are good stops and always worthwhile to do.
@soulsings Isn't that the truth! I was just thinking yesterday that the daffodils are already blooming and I don't feel like we've had any winter at all. It seems like this year is rushing by.
But, then I realized that I've had my head down working and haven't noticed much of what's going on around me,
So, thanks for the reminder to slow down....
@MissPen yes I have to watch myself and make sure I do not wish my life away. Now is the moment to watch what is happening all around me.
I need to forgive myself for allowing regrets to weigh me down and negatively affect my spirit and interactions with others.
@FromtheTent81
Some days are harder than others, hope you could set down the heavy burden you carried and walk away from it.
Sorry to hear , hope you manage tofu d some light amongst the shade ! Thank goodness the spring flowers are coming up , new beginnings?@FromtheTent81
I don't have to forgive myself anymore. Others will have to forgive me
@amiablePeace77 I had a lot of health anxiety over the weekend. I found support here and some mindfulness breathing videos.
@adventurousBranch3786
Glad to hear that you found the supported you needed here.
Hope you are feeling better now x@adventurousBranch3786
@mooboxer yes I am doing better, thanks!
Just need to say that today I'm a little concerned Ive detached too much and ,Ive gone too far into myself in isolation.
@FromtheTent81 sorry to hear you feel isolated. Hope you find a way out of the forest.
We have support discussions that bring together some fine people. The schedule is here https://www.7cups.com/forum/50OverCommunity_193/TeamToolsandTeamUpdates_1705/50plusDiscussionsScheduleandTopics_207920/
@soulsings Thanks. Good to know somebodys there anywhere.
@FromtheTent81 right glad to know you are here
