50+ community Weekend Check-in October 16-18, 2020
Hello everyone in the 50+ community 
How did your week go?
Give yourself a pat on the back 
This weekend I like to ask you to join me in giving yourself a pat on the back and use any kind of positive affirmation like “You did well” or “You are an awesome friend” when something goes well, everything counts, not matter how big.
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I cannot receive the results of anything that I sought, whenever I try to accomplish something and feel close to finishing it, I find extra burdens on my shoulders and I feel that I am stepping back millions of steps to the point that I may start everything over.
@DinaElwy acceptance is a tough lesson to learn in my experience.
Yesterday my fiance and I went for a hike. A very long hike and I was fairly tired at the stopping point. She started talking to me and I was not responding. She got very angry at me.
Last night and today I made it up to her by talking to her a lot.
@Offmytrack well on a hike you were probably tired. Glad it is working out.
@amiablePeace77, This week was hard. I have to deal with two adults who want to act like teenagers, mentally. They like to bully and drink and do drugs. The first few days were me being mentally overwhelmed. I kept trying to rise above though and finally did. I’m still struggling in this environment. But I did a helluva job fighting my way back to just feeling closer to balanced.
@purpleTree4652 way to go. You sound like you are finding your inner strength!
I wish I was in that picture. It seems so tranquil
I fixed a friend's computer, I applaud myself.
@scarletPear1945 helping others is a great way to heal ourselves.
I live in a caring situation with a possible and undiagnosed autism spectrum person. I am a survivor, and that's what I continue to do. It is not bad. Sometimes It is difficult, and because I am an introverted person, I can get by with my situation. Thankfully, I live in a nearly ideal neighborhood. The past week concerned my mostly keeping myself activated and motivated, and also staying engaged in interactions with housemate. Housmate is an elder person-- nearly a generation ahead of me in time. So I am also reading Roz Chast's cartoon book and memoir of her caring for her aged parents.
Can't we Talk About Something More Pleasant
It hits to home for me.
For the past three years, I lived with advanced sleep phase disorder. I guess that is the medical term. That means that I start at 2-3 a.m. I usually sleep for seven hours by going to bed at 7 p.m.
Thank you... Maybe I overshared, and you may let me know if I am on a tangent.
Thank you sincerly,
"D."
@diofono glad you have a good environment. Thanks for sharing. I really appreciate you and what you shared.
How does this all work?? It seems like it's just one.more.thing. that i have to do.
@blueEyes6469 thank you for sharing on the post. It gives us a chance to express and for others to listen. That I think is some of what support is.
