50+ community Weekend Check-in October 2-4, 2020
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How did acceptance and patience help you in the last weeks to feel good or better?
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How did acceptance and patience help you in the last weeks to feel good or better?
I am always a patient and accepting person, that is what keeps me going, keeps my spirits up. My girlfriend is always going on retreats, getting upset with me, not loving me, and I just accept that and continue loving her.
@Offmytrack
Nice that you can keep your spirits up! Do you think there is a possibility that your gf loves you more than you think?
@amiablePeace77, yes, I know she loves me, possibly more than I even know. It's just the rest of the time that I find hard to deal with.
@Offmytrack
So deep inside you know that she loves you but then there are times you mind makes you doubt her love?
@amiablePeace77 I know she loves me. It's only when she is on a retreat that she gets very difficult to deal with. Those only last a few days.
@Offmytrack
Good that you're patient and so loving so that you can overcome those tough days, hope things will get better.
@amiablePeace,
How did acceptance and patience help you in the last weeks to feel good or better?
What makes you think acceptance and patience were supposed to appear for me? Did I miss some instruction? I ask because I could use a mountain of acceptance and patience at this point in my life. My sister gets drunk every day and I am clean and sober, which makes living with her hard. (Right now I don't have anywhere else to go.) She and I both have mental problems; except she refuses to face her problems. Instead, she intends to stay an alcoholic and drug addict. Yes, she has told me so. She also has Parkinson’s disease, so it is hard for me to know how much is self-medicating and how much is just being a lazy drunk.
@purpleTree4652
These are very challenging circumstances to live in. I can only imagine how hard it is having achieved to be sober and seeing your own sibling not even wanting to change. Please take good care of yourself and remember that we are always here for you.
@amiablePeace77, I honestly don't know how long I can last in these circumstances. I'll hang in there as long as i have to, but beyond that, I don't know. I am having to prop myself up mentally, every day, because of the atmosphere in this house and my own mental problems. Thanks for your concern, peace.
@purpleTree4652
It might not seem that there is any solution to this like where you could go else but have you thought about if there is anywhere you could go in the worst case scenario, just anywhere, a friend, a shelter just to know that there is an alternative if nothing works anymore? Sometimes that can be very reassuring.
@amiablePeace77, I don't have any friends good enough to house me. My friends are acquaintances at best. I don't know of a shelter. I honestly haven't had the energy to look for one. I am on low-income housing wait lists, but those usually take years. I guess I should look into a shelter.
How did acceptance and patience help you in the last weeks to feel good or better?
That hasn't happened. I keep trying. People don't understand.
@WharfRat
Hugs wharfRat. I hope things will get better soon. What would you like others to understand if I may ask?
@amiablePeace77 Part of it would be just how profoundly lonely I am and have been all of my life. I can't expect anyone to want to keep me company, though. They would do it only out of pity.
@WharfRat
Feeling that people be with you only out of pity is hard. I am glad you come here, we all know how tough things can become and it's not pitty to spend time with others here but the wish to help each other. You are always appreciated here.
Btw have you ever thought about joining classes (art, craft, sports) to connect to others?
It is hard to accept other people. I always try to do my best, but it never seems enough or is not viewed as enough.
@brightJet4880
brightJet you sound disappointed, hugs. Something that helped me is not to have expectations towards others or if very low so when things go well I am pleasantly surprised.
@amiablePeace77 Hard to say. I feel a burden with all this knowledge . I feel the world is dieing and I cant stop it. I just want to yell out be kind stop hating stop burning oil.........
@Freeskier
I hear you, all the bad news can become overwhelming. Do you think it could help you portioning your intake of news to a very small amount (just the essentials) for some time so that you can rebalance?
@amiablePeace77
How did acceptance and patience help you in the last weeks to feel good or better?
Sorry that I missed posting this on the weekend!
Acceptance was very hard but I did it. My step brother is dying but they were able to get him home with Hospice care as he can be with the family. I live several states away and can not go to be with him. I love him and it's been difficult to accept but I've made peace with the situation as best I can.
Patience had also been into practice as I've started a new job and there is SO much to learn that its overwhelming. I have to keep reminding myself to be patient with myself and that I will start being faster, with less mistakes, soon. It's all going to be okay.
Sher
@Sher217
I am very sorry to hear that your step brother is dying, it must have been hard to find peace in this painful situation, glad you could. Can you talk to him over the internet or phone?
Wish you all the best for your new job.
@amiablePeace77
How did acceptance and patience help you in the last weeks to feel good or better?
i just think my accpeting the fact that not everything goes my way kinda brought in more inner peace
@potatoxcrispztrish
That's true acceptance 
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