I’m stuck and feel alone
I feel stuck in my current life I feel like nobody even cares what I do or how I do it just as long as it doesn’t bother them. I know it’s not true but that’s the way I feel
@lovesslifesoitseems
Hugs lovesslifesoitseems. I'm so sorry that you feel no one cares about you even if you know it's not true. These kind of feelings hurt deeply. When I feel down thoughts like no one cares about me want to come up, it's a sign for me to do more self-care. Often it helps just to share with someone about how you feel, you may contact a listener here: 7cups.com/BrowseListeners
What have you done for yourself today or what can you do?
I have not done anything for me. I’m a giver. I give and give no matter how I feel. And when I don’t give they all get mad (family) I really don’t have friends. So then I feel bad about making them feel mad. Sorry
@lovesslifesoitseems
Hi, as a giver myself, there will be times when I know that when I give too much but forget to give to myself. It is when I feel drained, overwhelmed and just completely tired. We tend to feel bad to receive other people's gift, feeling like we don't deserve it, or we don't need it. It still feels bad even now to let people give to me. But at least, after a long process, I let myself give a gift to myself. It is about doing whatever makes me feel good or better, or stronger. If its' difficult to think what I can do to myself, I just try to remember what I do or give to others to make them feel good/better, then I do it to myself. I still only let a few people give me gifts; they are the ones who I believe are sincere, meaning that they don't really expect something in return. Yes, there are people like that, only a few though. But that's enough, as long as I am also giving to myself.
I feel like if I let someone help me (with something I took upon my self to help them with years ago) then I’m not doing my part for them even though they will help if I ask. I do too much but can’t say no.
@lovesslifesoitseems
True. I feel this also. In different case, if I think I need help and worry if I could ever repay that person when that person would not need me to repay since they are pretty well of themselves. In this case, I would practice pay it forward; I will pay this kindness to other person in need.
Nothing other people do is because of you. It is because of themselves. All people live in their own dream, in their own mind; they are in a completely different world from the one we live in. When we take something personally, we make the assumption that they know what is in our world, and we try to impose our world on their world. - Miguel Angel Ruiz
So what you’re saying yes this is my own doings because I just give
Many of us feel like this. I'm sorry you feel this way. I hope you can find a way through this difficult time
@lovesslifesoitseems i am going through the same stuff ... and its hurting a lot
i want to move away from everything idk what to do
@lovesslifesoitseems
well, that about sums it up for me.. I feel the same as you do. I bought an oculus quest VR (I am 70 yr old) and I have traveled all over the world , real and make-believe, in VR on the Oculus. I do find some peace in this. my wife has no desire to travel with me any longer and in fact she has no desire to do any thing with me. she says she has changed and no longer is the gal that I once knew.
@charmingPlum3097
I'm really sorry to hear about your wife telling you that is not the person you once knew anymore. It must have been rough for you to hear this. 💙
I can relate to this... Just know that you are not alone ❤️