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Cheri’s Connection Corner - Your Third Place & Positivity

User Profile: SunShineAlwaysGrateful
SunShineAlwaysGrateful August 15th, 2023

Have you ever heard of a "third place?"

A sociological term, third places are those places where people spend time between home ("first place") and work ("second place"); places where you go to unwind and feel happy and unjudged.

Cafes, public libraries, gyms, pubs, parks: these are all often thought of as third places.

You enter them with few barriers, and meet people from all walks of life, with whom you somehow feel a sense of commonality, as different from you as they may be.

These interactions act as the glue to social cohesion in our society.

In this digital age we're currently living in, third places are especially important.

Where are YOUR third places? Would you like to include more third places in YOUR life? How does it add positivity to YOUR life?


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User Profile: SunShineAlwaysGrateful
SunShineAlwaysGrateful OP August 15th, 2023

@SunShineAlwaysGrateful

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SunShineAlwaysGrateful OP August 15th, 2023

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User Profile: adventurousBranch3786
adventurousBranch3786 August 15th, 2023

@SunShineAlwaysGrateful. I do enjoy a cup of coffee at a coffee shop 😊

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SunShineAlwaysGrateful OP August 15th, 2023

@adventurousBranch3786

Me too ☕️☕️☕️

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Gettingbettertoday August 15th, 2023

@SunShineAlwaysGrateful

I am not sure if whomever came up with this concept watch too much Cheers or what.

My personal experience of 57 years tells me that such places are rare or non-existent since i have never encountered such a place.

If anyone has had this experience i would like to hear about it. Do people go out of their way to speak to you about more than just how your drink is? In addition how did this come about that you became part of the group?


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adventurousBranch3786 August 15th, 2023

@Gettingbettertoday. At the coffee shop I have had people start a conversation with me. One man started telling me that he was a widow and about his life with his wife. Another time a man told me that he was going for surgery soon. I had another women talk to me about a comment that I made to my partner.

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Gettingbettertoday August 15th, 2023

@adventurousBranch3786

Have you ever gone in and spoke to the same person more than once, or learned their names ?

I guess the point is you feel safe there. I don't have a problem with that. I feel as safe & welcome in a 5 star restaurant as i do a biker bar. In neither place would i expect to start a conversation with anybody.


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adventurousBranch3786 August 15th, 2023

@Gettingbettertoday. I haven’t seen them again. In the future I am thinking about inviting someone that I meet for coffee again.

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User Profile: SunShineAlwaysGrateful
SunShineAlwaysGrateful OP August 16th, 2023

@Gettingbettertoday

I live in a rural area and if you frequent places regularly you get to know the staff and others that go to that third place as well etc.

It is often small talk but it is lovely. 💕

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CyclingThroughLife August 15th, 2023

My third place is the gym. It's the only public place I go regularly. I don't interact with anyone there despite seeing the same people there 4 or 5 times a week because I'm not there to socialize. While I frequent .area restaurants regularly, I don't think i would call them third places.


While adding more third places to my life would probably be beneficial, not being a people person is hampering that....its something I definately need to work on.

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SunShineAlwaysGrateful OP August 16th, 2023

@CyclingThroughLife

Everyone has different requirements for social. You probably get focused social time in your life elsewhere. The gym is a fantastic place. Thank you for sharing. 😎

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LostTurtle2 August 16th, 2023

My 3rd place is literally my car in which I commute solo to and from job. Sometimes when I feel better I listen to podcasts or such.

It's not exactly fun or stress free.

But, since you asked...

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SunShineAlwaysGrateful OP August 16th, 2023

@LostTurtle2

i can see your car as place to de stress and podcasts are great way to add value to a commute. Thank you for sharing. 😎

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Murielle7 August 17th, 2023

Unfortunately I don't have any third place. I am always running between work and family

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SunShineAlwaysGrateful OP August 18th, 2023

@Murielle7

Many people are the same. I go to coffee shops but not frequently. My happy place is at home too. Thank you for sharing. 💕

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Barltik2065 August 17th, 2023

@SunShineAlwaysGrateful

I understand that a ‘Third Place’ is an area where you social and feel safe and are accepted.

Where are YOUR third places?

I do not outside of here at 7 cups

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SunShineAlwaysGrateful OP August 18th, 2023

@Barltik2065

i am sssooo glad 7cups is your third place.💕💕💕💕

You have a presence here and helping in forum land too now. 😎😎🙌🙌

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cafelatte46 August 17th, 2023

My third place has been the ice rink. It’s a fun way to exercise and since the practice times are on a set schedule I see the same people all the time.

I realized my depression and anxiety were getting worse because I stopped going to the rink. I have to have a lesson scheduled or I can’t get out of the house. 😢

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SunShineAlwaysGrateful OP August 18th, 2023

@cafelatte46

i love it a rink!! ⛸️⛸️⛸️⛸️⛸️⛸️⛸️⛸️⛸️

I am Canadian so a rink is are a thing here too! It is a perfect place to unwind with people who share this activity.💕💕💕💕💕💕

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slowdecline48 August 18th, 2023

I don't go every day or even every week or month, as one is often required to spend money to hang out in "third places". Inflation has been hitting everyone in the wallet/purse & I'm no exception.

However...at the risk of offending others here: my most frequent third place is the local Hooters restaurant/bar. I didn't go for young men's usual reasons....(can't ogle the waitresses as they're all young enough to be my daughter, if I had one!) I went there to get out of my aptmt & sketch the girls, usually with ink & brush. Call it sketch-painting. I built up a reputation in the place, & it even spread to one of their restaurants in the town just north of me. Even now, there are a few long-term people--waitresses & the manager for 1st shift--there who know me for my talents.

...it was easier to do when I was drinking more, though.

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SunShineAlwaysGrateful OP August 19th, 2023

@slowdecline48

Yes 🙌 🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌 any place you feel comfy is a good third place. When I visited Nashville I loved Twin Peaks bc the restaurant reminded me of Canada 🇨🇦 with the caribou and moose antlers …💕💕💕💕💕

I love places I frequent where they know me. It is like the Cheers where everyone knows your name.

Thank you for sharing. 😎😎

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