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User Profile: BookishWendy
BookishWendy January 22nd

I wish I was about 35. I had energy and was the perfect weight. I'm not sure if it's my age (51) or being postmenopausal but I put on weight and I have no energy and motivation.

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User Profile: amiablePeace77
amiablePeace77 January 24th

@BookishWendy

Sorry for the late reply to your message but reading it only now.

You've been through a very rough time as a full-time caregiver and also had to take care of your personal mental health. This must have been very challenging! Many people over 50 struggle with low energy levels, which can be linked to factors like age-related hormonal issues. It can be hard to accept that we're not functioning anymore like when we were young. I find that the more I stick to my exercise routine (focus on resistance training), healthy diet and making sure I have things to enjoy my energy levels are okay. 

What are you doing for fun atm? What gives you hope for the future?

User Profile: thoughtfulScarf8849
thoughtfulScarf8849 January 24th

@BookishWendy

Good evening my friend :) Do not let your heart be troubled.

I will be turning 60 in a couple of weeks and i find that outlets work very well.

User Profile: Friendlylistener777
Friendlylistener777 January 25th

I totally get it. It sounds like you're feeling really frustrated with the changes you're experiencing, and I don't blame you one bit.

First of all, let's just acknowledge that 51 is not old! You're still young and vibrant, and there's so much life ahead of you.

That being said, I know that hormonal changes can be tough to navigate. Postmenopause can bring about some significant shifts in energy and metabolism, and it's not uncommon for women to experience weight gain during this time.

But here's the thing: you are not defined by your age, your weight, or your energy levels. You are so much more than that.

Can I ask, what are some things that used to bring you joy and motivation? Are there any activities or hobbies that you've had to set aside since you started feeling this way?

User Profile: Niceguyjack
Niceguyjack January 25th

@BookishWendy welcome to my world, saw your lost your husband.. I lost my wife about 7 years ago. I know that's a rough time. It never goes away but it usually does improve with time. Hang in there

User Profile: Creamyyy
Creamyyy January 25th

@BookishWendy I put on a lot of weight. I'm in my 30s. I couldn't lose it. Until I figured what I was doing wrong. It's the diet! Please check your diet and remove all sugar from it. You might want to cut down carbs too. Best consult a nutritionist or a doctor; they can guide you best. Anyway once I changed my diet my weight has started to go down and it was a great feeling because I really had given up and was really sad.

So lesson from my story - 1. Don't give up 2. Change diet.

@BookishWendy

i am so sorry you are struggling and yes with aging comes some changes in many ways. You are not alone. 

I try to do a little bit at a time so I can manage the things I do some every day. I feel productive and it helps. Movement is good and the more you move the easier it will be. Don’t over do though bc too much activity can back fire. 

Weight gain is common in menopause. Small changes add up daily over time. What habits would you like to work on in 2025? For me this year being more mindful of food and move more functionally ie steps daily helps. 


User Profile: Tranquil2025
Tranquil2025 January 31st

I feel ya. I’m so tired on this weight. It doesn’t change at all.


I know the feeling..