Over coming trauma as we get older
People who have survived traumas in their life find it hard to deal with as we get older. It is because we lack certain survivor skills such as Self-Confidence and trust. when denied this some forget their coping skills like dissassociation, addiction, fight and flight.
as we grow older we tend to burnout faster than when we were younger. All the stress in our jobs, relationships getting old plain o ut sucks lol. But we must embrace we arfe not getting any younger and accept how we are in the present time.
I love how my grandparents use to warn me "wait till your my age" or even an older person we know now will say " your still a youngster what tille your 80 or 90 " I always tell them I am 60 now and feel my body is their age and we laugh about it.
How can we as a person accept the trauma's we have faced in life and may face as we grow older?
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@pamharley003
Hi, Pam,
I honestly think that we can only put one foot in front of the other and keep moving forward. While we're going that, we try to improve ourselves, one step at a time.
@purpleTree4652
I live each day as it is given to me. I learn from yesterday appreciate today and move forward for tomorrow. I call it Pam's baby steps
I feel like all of the trauma I experienced in my childhood made me build a wall around myself, so future trauma doesn't affect me as deeply. I don't know if if worked or not. The wall did more harm than good. Taking current troubles and future troubles, I can do it only as they come.
Thank you for taking the time to create this thread, this is a wonderful question.
I suppose we all have our answers and ways of dealing with traumatic life experiences. This is what I have found helpful through my own journey.
First, brutal honesty followed by deep introspection is a must in order to organize what our mind and soul has disoriented. If we can not even be honest with ourselves, how do we have any hope of healing what has injured us? We have to know what that is.
Second, I am a proponent on Carl Jung's shadow work, the process by which we process our hidden selves, and ultimately acquire a state of individuation.
“Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.”
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These are all theoretical goals that requires tremendous dicipline and willpower, which I can understand are overwhelming or seemingly impossible to the mentally unwell. Thats why I think focusing on the small steps forward are more important than the ultimate goal. There is a book called the body keeps score which goes more in depth in the study of trauma.
@Solaire97
I am glad you like the post, I do try my best to write posts that will educate us
I have been addressing the issue with myself over the past couple of years as to how I am impacted by negative things. I don’t want to say trauma, necessarily, because I tend to use that word for the really really bad stuff that happens. But, in general, I have noticed that I am a lot less resilient as when I was younger.
I don’t deal with stress as well now that I’m older. 20 years ago I could multitask and solve everyone’s problems and go, go, go. Now, I get irritated and stressed out at a lot of minor issues.
Sometimes I wonder if it’s just the fact that I don’t feel that I should be dealing with all of this stuff anymore. Kind of like, life is too short and it’s getting shorter, and I’m irritated that you’re making me have to deal with stuff. I just want the rest of my life to be happy and calm.
Someone tell me, please.
I have stopped worryying as much as when I was younger its time to relax and not make myself sick overit. Also changing negatives to positives helps an awful lot
