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***** Not taking any 1-1 chats right now please use https://www.7cups.com/BrowseListeners/ to find a Listener.


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 Adult and Teen Listener

Forum and Room Supporter - for Mindfulness and 50+

Community Mentor - 50+

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I joined in December of 2017, to help those who have nowhere  to turn. I am here for new listeners also to mentor because beginning a role like a Listener can be scary and want to give back to them. to help guide them and supply the appropriate tolls ( forms, links ) to help them succeed in their role. I help also with any concerns a new listener may have.

I have real fun making forum posts for topics that help in my groups Mindfulness and 50+. I think of topics and write a forum post either to educare us more or just to update on a topic of choice. I enjoy writing the post and hearing feedback from others on how a person feels about the topics .

My experience on 7 cups makes me love the roles I have and new roles I may apply for. I have grown so much with 7 cups and use certain chat strategies in my friendships offline. 





                




































































































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Turning dreams into reality as we get older
50 & Over Community / by pamharley003
Last post
August 14th
...See more Turning our dreams into reality as we grow older means we shift from trading ruushed ambitions into a purposeful action. as we age comes clarity, time, and emotional wisdom turing old aspirations into achievable chapters. It isbuilding what truely matters in your life into chapters. Dreams tend to be more reflective and older adults tends to dream about the legecies they will leave behind for their families to remember them by, and the interactions we have had with them also. Dreams do change as we grow older as your brain, daily life, and sleep patterns chang so do the themes, colors, and frequencies of our dreams change.  Younger dreamers tend to dream seeming more vivid while older people tend to dream of complicated and less-emotional situatioons. our dreams fade because of society thinking we have a cut-off point. It is never to late to achieve our dreams sometimes we find them when we are younger or it comes to you as you grow older.  People tend to report their dreams differently as they age. Our dreams reflect what goes on in our waking life. Parallels in our sleep and reality reveal very little of about why our dreams change as we grow older. Our dreams as an adult are more mundane. It shows us showing up late to something in a dream and trying to do it over and over again.  At the end of life, we are reported as seeing departed love ones or packing to go on a vacation more. This process helps you understand that life maybe coming to an end, and makes the dying process easier for yhou to deal with. 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How to navigate complex trauma and dissociation through mindfulness
Mindfulness Center / by pamharley003
Last post
August 13th
...See more Mindfulness Daily check-in from August 14th to August 16th, 2026 Trying to navigate complex trauma and dissociation means shifting the mindfulness from a passive reflection to an active outer grounding. The traditional meditation can worsen the dissociation we have by forcing our focus onto an overwhelming inner world. We should use sensory anchors to signal safety to our nervous system.  Mindfulness, in a holistic perspective, is to keep you focused on the now, not the past or the future. Mindfulness can help people heal from a traumatic trauma in the past. It can help you not react to the pas How can practicing mindfulness help you relax? How do you feel after navigating trauma and dissociation? Current taglist as of July 14, 2026 @4551SP @Admirablerainbow2825 @adrjust1 @adventurousBranch3786 @adventurousCat7477 @Agent22 @alexandralee @AllAboutThePeace11 @Always25 @amiablePeace77 @asherb281 @avistaco @Beechie @Blueberryrabbit @cal1860 @CaringSoftly @CatHanderOutNoah @Chiara117 @communicativeJet616 @dapperBeach8823 @daydreammemories @EchoOrAsh @ElenaDeMonaco @eternalMusic21 @FaithMonk9473 @Falcon05 @FloraBelle @ForestZen @fossilfellow @frankPark1546 @freeman @GentleHealingInitiative @Goldenfox2009 @greenScarf6235 @iloveyouxx @imprettysleepy @indigoBeechwood597 @infiniteforever12 @InsightfulPhoenix @Invisibility101 @Izila @JarofSeeds627 @jaywalkk @Kait @Kickan75 @kindRiver6 @kivesh @listeningcalico1055 @Littlejoy11 @livinggadget @MindfulJourney22 @Mishka1599 @mytwistedsoul @nessdamess @NotAllHere713 @onwardforevenmore @pamharley003 @PeacefulBeach3454 @peacefulDovex @pinkCherry1313 @PopPunkPrincess17 @Proof222 @Rainboho @rebeccastgo @Rose483 @RunningMachine @shinebright300 @sincereGrapefruit83 @Sirpi @SkillfullMeans @sky2Ocean20 @Snowy00 @sociableKiwi3027 @SparklesFly @sunshineBeauty5741 @Swordpsalm @tallZebra8032 @TealPhotog @The24hrClimber @thoughtfulSail5983@Tinywhisper11 @trueconfidant123 @toughApricot223 @understandingTree5725 @virtualSolace44 @VKlistening @warmMemory6263 @weirdofr @yellowIdea7518 @yellowPineapple3652 @YesWayJose @yzzil @Zeraphim @zombeach
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having self-control as we grow older
50 & Over Community / by pamharley003
Last post
August 13th
...See more As we grow older so does our self-control.  The older community have a better control on managing their emotions betterand choosing what matters the most to them.  Self-control in adults is the process of involving personal decisions and choices.  Self-control is associated with multiple outcomes. We all struggle to make the right choices and decisions as we grow older to live a peacful life, sometimes it is good, while other times we find ourselves struggling. Self-control is crucial when making a decision or a right choice. The decision can be about lifestyles, moral choices, and economic decisions. Self-control is the restraints we put on ourselves to do the right thing. Personal growth in older adults and their longevitydepend on their health care choices, investments they have made in life, and the choices the make in the eldery life depends on this. How can we have better self-control of things that go on in our lives? 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How to unlock your thoughts using meditation
Mindfulness Center / by pamharley003
Last post
August 9th
...See more Mindfulness Daily Check-In August 10th to August 12th 2026 Unlocking your inner thoughts through meditation means to learn to observe your inner mind and unlocking them without judgement. When you anchor your breathing you can better breathe and create a dsitance between mental cluttering, allowing yourself deep inner thinking, and bringing clarity to the surface. Negative thoughts and overthinking do not define who you are. They are patterns in how you think. When meditating you can release those negative thoughts and overthinking by relaxing in a comfortable psoition and thinking inside your head. Meditation is the most powerful tool to do this with. You get to the inner core of the thoughts and work out solutions to handling the negativity and overthinking. Meditation is about observing those thoughts without being attached to them.  Powerful tips for overthinking: Sit in a comfortable position and breathe: Sitting 5 minutes a day and concentrating on your breathing in through the nose and out through the mouth can relax you into seeing the inner thoughts. Practice loving-kindness meditation: negative thoughts ome from self-criticism and judgment. Sit comfortably and wish thos negative thoughts to go away while practicing your breathing exercises. Say phrases like " I will be happy after the exercises". Practice sedlf-compassion to yourself. Create a space for stillness: while doing your breathing exercises, feel how you are releasing tension, anxiety, and depression. Begin to focus on bringing yourself to the present form, the now. Observe without judgement: One important key in meditation is learning to observe how you are thinking and feeling. When a negative arises do act on it, think of how to calm yourself down.  Overcoming negative thoughtsand overthinking is a process we all need to stop doing. We need to take a few minutes to look into that feeling and find a solution to having negativity go away. By practicingmeditation you begin to come back to the present state of form your in andnot allow those negative thoughts to control you. How can you overcome negative thoughts with meditation? Do you feel calmer after meditation? Current taglist as of July 14, 2026 @4551SP @Admirablerainbow2825 @adrjust1 @adventurousBranch3786 @adventurousCat7477 @Agent22 @alexandralee @AllAboutThePeace11 @Always25 @amiablePeace77 @asherb281 @avistaco @Beechie @Blueberryrabbit @cal1860 @CaringSoftly @CatHanderOutNoah @Chiara117 @communicativeJet616 @dapperBeach8823 @daydreammemories @EchoOrAsh @ElenaDeMonaco @eternalMusic21 @FaithMonk9473 @Falcon05 @FloraBelle @ForestZen @fossilfellow @frankPark1546 @freeman @GentleHealingInitiative @Goldenfox2009 @greenScarf6235 @iloveyouxx @imprettysleepy @indigoBeechwood597 @infiniteforever12 @InsightfulPhoenix @Invisibility101 @Izila @JarofSeeds627 @jaywalkk @Kait @Kickan75 @kindRiver6 @kivesh @listeningcalico1055 @Littlejoy11 @livinggadget @MindfulJourney22 @Mishka1599 @mytwistedsoul @nessdamess @NotAllHere713 @onwardforevenmore @pamharley003 @PeacefulBeach3454 @peacefulDovex @pinkCherry1313 @PopPunkPrincess17 @Proof222 @Rainboho @rebeccastgo @Rose483 @RunningMachine @shinebright300 @sincereGrapefruit83 @Sirpi @SkillfullMeans @sky2Ocean20 @Snowy00 @sociableKiwi3027 @SparklesFly @sunshineBeauty5741 @Swordpsalm @tallZebra8032 @TealPhotog @The24hrClimber @thoughtfulSail5983@Tinywhisper11 @trueconfidant123 @toughApricot223 @understandingTree5725 @virtualSolace44 @VKlistening @warmMemory6263 @weirdofr @yellowIdea7518 @yellowPineapple3652 @YesWayJose @yzzil @Zeraphim @zombeach
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Boundaries that scare you as you grow older
50 & Over Community / by pamharley003
Last post
August 17th
...See more As you begin to go through the golden years, we begin to set boundaries so we can live a happy and healthy life mentally and physically. Boundaries scare us through physical and societal rules that force you to confront vulnerable times that change your roles and morality. Setting and accepting boundaries late in life carry higher stakes because we are negotiating the remaining time we have, our energy to do things and our independence to live alone. Setting boundaries helps a carer from burning out, manages any guilt we have, and maintains a healthy relationship. Healthy boundaries will reduce resentment, prevent burnouts, and give you free time to enjoy your lives with those we love. We want to be able to live like we have been growing up and not overcome problems without working through them. How can we set boundaries for our golden years? What boundaries would you set for yourself? 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Finding strength through hard times with mindfulness
Mindfulness Center / by pamharley003
Last post
August 8th
...See more Mindfulness Daily Check-In August 7th to August 9th 2026 Finding strength through difficult times with mindfulness means we shift fighting reality to observing it. We put a gentle breathe in our bodies and come to face reality as in the present state we are in. We also notice the tension our bodies are experiencing, replace any self negative we have towards ourselves, and build a resilience within yourself. Mindfulness helps us buid up our self-compassion while we are going through hard times. Life has unexpected twist and turns that sometimes we can not navigate. We are faced with a divorce in our marriage, losing a job we loved, losing a family member or friends, we are always bound to hit a hard time. Meditating and practicing mindfulness helps you release stress, anxiety, depression and anger all the while we increase our focus and productivity.  Mindfulness is a way to increase self-awarenbess and clarity giving you the reasons to why we are here and what our goals in life are. Resilience gives you the feeling of bouncing back from difficult times in life. Once we notice we are in a difficult state we can work on solutions on how to bounce back. Mindfulness is the key aspect to meditation.  Current taglist as of July 14, 2026 @4551SP @Admirablerainbow2825 @adrjust1 @adventurousBranch3786 @adventurousCat7477 @Agent22 @alexandralee @AllAboutThePeace11 @Always25 @amiablePeace77 @asherb281 @avistaco @Beechie @Blueberryrabbit @cal1860 @CaringSoftly @CatHanderOutNoah @Chiara117 @communicativeJet616 @dapperBeach8823 @daydreammemories @EchoOrAsh @ElenaDeMonaco @eternalMusic21 @FaithMonk9473 @Falcon05 @FloraBelle @ForestZen @fossilfellow @frankPark1546 @freeman @GentleHealingInitiative @Goldenfox2009 @greenScarf6235 @iloveyouxx @imprettysleepy @indigoBeechwood597 @infiniteforever12 @InsightfulPhoenix @Invisibility101 @Izila @JarofSeeds627 @jaywalkk @Kait @Kickan75 @kindRiver6 @kivesh @listeningcalico1055 @Littlejoy11 @livinggadget @MindfulJourney22 @Mishka1599 @mytwistedsoul @nessdamess @NotAllHere713 @onwardforevenmore @pamharley003 @PeacefulBeach3454 @peacefulDovex @pinkCherry1313 @PopPunkPrincess17 @Proof222 @Rainboho @rebeccastgo @Rose483 @RunningMachine @shinebright300 @sincereGrapefruit83 @Sirpi @SkillfullMeans @sky2Ocean20 @Snowy00 @sociableKiwi3027 @SparklesFly @sunshineBeauty5741 @Swordpsalm @tallZebra8032 @TealPhotog @The24hrClimber @thoughtfulSail5983@Tinywhisper11 @trueconfidant123 @toughApricot223 @understandingTree5725 @virtualSolace44 @VKlistening @warmMemory6263 @weirdofr @yellowIdea7518 @yellowPineapple3652 @YesWayJose @yzzil @Zeraphim @zombeach
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Reasons for finding hope in our senior years
50 & Over Community / by pamharley003
Last post
August 6th
...See more y. They feel it is too late to try something new, to grow, and to enjoy the rest of your life to the fullest. Encouraging movements that feel good: As you grow older, staying active mentally and physically is a good way to keep our health moving. Being mobile helps us reduce stress, sleep better at night, and boost our moods.  Help finding them a sense of purpose: Hope grows when you're feeling loved and wanted in other people's lives. Retirement, health issues, and losses of loved ones can make an older person feel not wanted in life. We need to make elders feel their presence is much needed in life and encourage them to stay fit so they can live life fully. Connect through communities, clubs, and social events: Isolation can drain someone mentally, making them not feel like they matter or making them feel like they will be left out of life. When they join clubs and workshops, they're building new friendships while learning new hobbies. Talking to someone who can help: The best support system can come from family and friends. We can include them in our daily activities and talk with them about mental well-being. We can give support to them by listening and helping them feel accepted.  How can we keep hope in our lives as we age? 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How to be kind to Yourself through Mindfulness
Mindfulness Center / by pamharley003
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August 6th
...See more Mindfulness Daily Check-In August 7th to August 9th 2026 Being kind to yourself using mindfulness means to notice the thoughts your having without judging yourself. When you become stressed, take a moment to breathe in and out slowly, accept the feelings you are having, and treat yourself kindly like you would a friend. Self-Compassion techniques help you to tame those inner thoughts without judging yourself so you may change your life to a better state. Self-critical is when you put unfair pressure or higher expectations on yourself and find out you did not meet those expectations. Self-criticism happens when we respond to an emotion like shame and increases our self-control making it hard to go on with our lives. We begin to judge the things and our actions that we do and becomne rude to ourselves. Self-compassion helps you see the thoughts or feelings you are having and work on making themto feel good about yourself. Self-criticism tricks your brain into thinking everything is fine. Criticism is when we are hard on ourselves for not meeting a dead-line at work, miss out on a special event in our life, and begin to self doubt ourselves. Noticing your thoughts are when you see the thoughts but do not say anything. look at how you talk to yourself are you kind or harsh to yourself. Once you see the feeling name it such as "this is stress". "this is anger". using gentle actions like placing your hand on your heart can calm you down. Another way is to do breathing exercises to bring your racing breaths back to normal.  Another way to help yourself is accepting that things do not go as we may of planned it to go, remember everyone makes mistakes that is part of being human. You can also use positive affirmations to calm yourself down " I did really well in that presentation".  How can we offer more self-compassion to yourself when things go wrong? Do you lose it when things do not go your way? Current taglist as of July 14, 2026 @4551SP @Admirablerainbow2825 @adrjust1 @adventurousBranch3786 @adventurousCat7477 @Agent22 @alexandralee @AllAboutThePeace11 @Always25 @amiablePeace77 @asherb281 @avistaco @Beechie @Blueberryrabbit @cal1860 @CaringSoftly @CatHanderOutNoah @Chiara117 @communicativeJet616 @dapperBeach8823 @daydreammemories @EchoOrAsh @ElenaDeMonaco @eternalMusic21 @FaithMonk9473 @Falcon05 @FloraBelle @ForestZen @fossilfellow @frankPark1546 @freeman @GentleHealingInitiative @Goldenfox2009 @greenScarf6235 @iloveyouxx @imprettysleepy @indigoBeechwood597 @infiniteforever12 @InsightfulPhoenix @Invisibility101 @Izila @JarofSeeds627 @jaywalkk @Kait @Kickan75 @kindRiver6 @kivesh @listeningcalico1055 @Littlejoy11 @livinggadget @MindfulJourney22 @Mishka1599 @mytwistedsoul @nessdamess @NotAllHere713 @onwardforevenmore @pamharley003 @PeacefulBeach3454 @peacefulDovex @pinkCherry1313 @PopPunkPrincess17 @Proof222 @Rainboho @rebeccastgo @Rose483 @RunningMachine @shinebright300 @sincereGrapefruit83 @Sirpi @SkillfullMeans @sky2Ocean20 @Snowy00 @sociableKiwi3027 @SparklesFly @sunshineBeauty5741 @Swordpsalm @tallZebra8032 @TealPhotog @The24hrClimber @thoughtfulSail5983@Tinywhisper11 @trueconfidant123 @toughApricot223 @understandingTree5725 @virtualSolace44 @VKlistening @warmMemory6263 @weirdofr @yellowIdea7518 @yellowPineapple3652 @YesWayJose @yzzil @Zeraphim @zombeach  
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