Cheri’s Connection Corner - Lessons Learned

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UPDATED TAGLIST 10/23/2023

1st part

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Never refuse an invitation, never resist the unfamiliar, never fail to be polite and never outstay the welcome.

@SunShineAlwaysGrateful

Hi Cheri! 😊 ❤️  Many thanks for your forum post as well as for your thought provoking question! This is sooooooo much fun and I love that you have left it open ended! 

okay.....so let's see.......

Well, the first one that comes to mind is something that was said to me long ago. A little country girl said "don't get mad, just laugh at em"". 💡Eureka! I think there is a great deal of wisdom in that comment about rising above it all, consider the source, no reason to get upset, maybe *chuckle* 🫢 to ones self and move along. 

Next one was from a much older woman. She said "sometimes it's much better to be organized than it is to be clean". 💡Eureka moment once again! 

This makes a great deal of sense to me. While I'm a very clean person, like gee, come on gotta' live the right way and there are certain health and safety standards, lol 😊....my take away from this was how to live life during busy moments.

If one is busy, one has the choice, get organized, stay organized. Find a dedicated home for things, a place where everything lives. That can become a bit automatic if one does it the right way. If you have impromptu house guests that will be coming soon, ta-dah! No worries. Buzz and bee bop through the house, do a bit of last minute cleaning, no junk to trample over lol 😊

For some reason it reminds me of Jordan Peterson's discussions on "clean your room" if anyone has trouble with that. For me, organized surroundings helps with an organized mind. (whole nother talk show). 

There is a big difference between tidying up and being truly tidy. It helps! 

For the last one, it's all about forgiveness ❤️ . One doesn't have to ask for me to forgive them, for me to do so. Forgiving another, many times, can be more about us and less about them. To hold a grudge against another is like wishing someone else would drink poison while we do it to ourselves daily. Holding anger in our hearts only hurts us and not them. 

Forgiving another can represent freedom. Forgiving someone else doesn't have to mean that you have forgotten and it doesn't mean that you have to interact with them any longer. You can still have love in your heart for other people but yet, simply love them from a far. 

Cheri, thanks again for yet another, amazing forum post! I enjoyed spending time here with you today! 

*high fives* 😊 and *hugs*❤️

@SunShineAlwaysGrateful

What are three pieces of advice that you would like to share? 

1.  Give yourself permission to slow down and to take breaks and not try to be perfect. 

2.  Accept yourself as you are and be yourself

3. Don't do things just to please others 

1. In the real world, the actual golden rule is "he who has the gold makes the rules".
2. Business & pleasure don't mix. That means if you want a girlfriend/boyfriend, don't date a coworker & for d*** sure don't start boinking the boss. Save your recreational activities for when you're not on the job...yes, even online stuff. Remember all computers in a place of employment are usually monitored. Transgressing this rule usually leads to trouble; often as not it also leads to getting fired.
3. Take care of yourself first. There is no exception to this rule. If you aren't healthy & sane, you certainly can't look out for anyone else.

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- Having boundaries is very important.

- Not everything deserves a response.

- Having a healthy and kind support system is very important.

I think nobody would listen to an advice untill he asked for it, like someone could ask his work colleagues an advice for a problem in his work, but if someone have troubles in his life like someone wants to get better after his father's death and all the people around him keeps telling him you have to get up and continue your life but that person keeps intending to start something but he stares on what he has to do and delay or cancel what he intended to do. Giving advice is easy, but not everyone is ready to accept it even if he tried.