Traumatic experiences community check in Friday December 21st
Hey Trauma Family ,
i Hope i can start calling you guys that another short ish check in this week but going to do next part of the ACT series so hope you like the topic this week
Day 4 Drop the Rope
Bet you wonder what drop the rope means right well lets have a look shall we , here is the goal of this topic below
Goal: To understand that accepting pain is more productive than fighting against pain.
Lets relate this with our Trauma as i post the below activity with a short paragraph that goes with it
The situation you are in may feel like being in a tug-of-war with a big, ugly monster. It seems as though you cant win. The harder you pull, the harder the monster pulls back. Sometimes it even may feel as if theres a bottomless pit between you and the monster and, if you lose, youll be pulled into the pit and be completely destroyed. So, you pull and pull. You try harder and harder. You look for different ways to pull, better ways to pull, stronger ways to pull. Suppose, however, that you have a completely different job to do. Perhaps its not your job to win this tug-of-war. Perhaps its your job to find a way to drop the rope.
Question for you: Instead of fighting against our pain, what should we do?
Bonus Activity:
Share your thoughts below to better understand this concept.
Extra Questions
How are you feeling?
Anything you wish to share this week anything your close to accepting?
Of course the above is optional just a hi or a regular check- In is welcomed hope you are all doing well this week
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I feel GREAT!!!
I finally broke up from work today for the holidays and now i have 2 weeks off 
Im so excited!!! Also the kids at work got me lots of presents and i feel super lucky and thankful.
Have a great Holidays everyone. If you dont celebrate the holidays, i hope you all have a great time anyway 
@RockClimber18 awww rock thats awesome what prezzies did you get
@CaringBrit
Cant open them yet!!! Its not Christmas yet
@RockClimber18 more patience than me lol id be itching to open them lol
@CaringBrit
This topic really hits home today. I've realized recently that i may be pushing myself too hard and not being realistic/ accepting of what I'm dealing with. I keep feeling like a failure, but really I'm doing what i can. Really, need to be accepting of myself. I'm going to try to drop my rigid expectations of myself, and try to drop obsessing about upcoming holiday drama with relatives.
@SentientiaPoecile your no failure at all pushing ourselves too hard can happen i am glad to hear you recently reflected due to my topic i believe in you i know you can do it
@CaringBrit
Great topics! 👏
@AmityLagniappe ty Amity the other parts of this topic are in previous check ins of mine
@CaringBrit its not normal for me to post more than a few words but right now it feels like I am already in the bottomless pit with no sign of light. This time of years really hard for so many different reasons and I cant stop my mind from thinking about things, everything that has happened, decisions Ive made and everything Ive managed to f**k up in life.
A little piece of advice for all the members of this community.....
When things are really bad for you please, please, please reach out to someone. Dont make my mistake and keep it all locked up inside because all it will do is destroy you.
Take care of and be there for each other and above all be gentle with yourselves. Yous are doing amazing work here and I hope you all find a few moments of peace ❤️
@crimsonLime6525 lime im proud of you right now more than a few words is a huge achievement to do your not Alone neither you have us all here hugs
great advice for the others too
whenever your ready to open up to me lime im here to listen
Hi everyone - I've been feeling better the past few days especially after posting my story on the 'share your story' forum. it felt really good to finally share the story i've kept mostly bottled up for so long. And to be so warmly welcomed by everyone here has given me a lot of warm fuzzies :) i believe i can get past this now even though it might be hard. happy holidays everyone 
@crimsonSpruce612 Spruce i am super happy for you such positivity in your post and yayy on letting your story out
@CaringBrit
Great question. So hard to talk about these things.
@ReallyRuth certainly is
@CaringBrit
Keep trying to write things and deleting them, so maybe I will just say I am having a tough time.
@ReallyRuth thats ok theiras no rush to respond unless comfy too im sorry to hear your having a tough time hugs if you would like one
@CaringBrit
Thank you
@ReallyRuth yw
Hello.
I wish I could share what was on my mind but I feel reticent.
I think I remember the day I felt like I died inside. I was pretty young so I think I kind of actually thought that I did die. I didnt understand anything that was happening. Its like a part of me has yet to recover from whatever happened that day. Its a work in progress I guess.
I also used to feel like I was on the edge of that giant bottomless pit of pain and internal screaming agony. Things have gotten better and Im not usually on the edge anymore. Sometimes now I can have good moments Or even a pretty good day. Thats pretty amazing. I wish I didnt feel scared as much as I do though. That would be nice to have less of. Yup, scary stuff this remembering and acceptance sometimes.
@pioneeringBanana1598 youve made great progress there pioneering every step of the way we are here for you
Ending the struggle. That's all I really want. I only know one way to effectively give up, that is to end life. I know that's not what this means. I don't know what else to say right now. I have limited access to internet right now.
@practicalIdeal2007
Oh I'm so sad to read your post. I am praying for you. There is hope. You may not see it now but there IS hope! You are made in the image of God and deeply loved!!! You are SO worthwhile!!!! Please reach out and get help! There are people who want to and will help you. Why? Because you deserve to feel better and know you are loved!!! You are strong!! You are held and loved! Please know God loves you!!!! Praying for you!
@practicalIdeal2007 i agreee with KLM there certainly is hope deal if you begin to feel close to crisis please reach out for help and were always here for you when not in crisis
hugs if you want one deal