Have a loved one struggling with addiction?

@Jill7cups this group is amazing for anyone struggling with addiction or that has a loved one..

My husband is an alcoholic and we've been together 7 years. It has only gotten worse, but he refuses to stop and/or get help. As the years have passed, his alcoholism has taken a toll on me. I never know who he will be at the end of the night after drinking enough. Happy, crabby, angry, sad, or just plain mean. I walk on eggshells at night after work when I see him go in the garage, especially if he's talking on the phone, because that means he'll be drinking for awhile. We have been through a lot together. Good things. Bad things. Traumatic incidents and very fun situations. But, resorting to becoming a high functioning alcoholic is something I have no clue about how to deal with. I grew up with a single mother and she never got drunk in front of my brother and I. My grandparents drank, but they were never violent or angry. I've only been around drug addicts and that is something I could offer a few words about. But if someone could give me some information about an alcoholic, it would be greatly appreciated. I went to Al Anon for info about meetings, but haven't made it yet to one. Alcholism effects not only the alcholic, but the people closest to them also. :(

I have seen addiction problem with close one with alcohol. Too happy or too stress situation they like to do drink. I wonder why it is need when it happy situation. I wonder many a time forgetting issue for few hours thus it help out. I had talked many time on these issues with them but seem it long term habits and i had experience too we cant help them until and unless they dont feel to leave on their own for themself.

Fighting,arguing and getting anger with them make thing worst. Infact it take them to more wrong path. They start saying lie and make wrong excuse and sometime it bring distance in relationship. Yes it upset overall seeing our close one such addiction. even i feel clueless what should be done so that they can leave that habit.

as i am suffering the deepest depression, most severe loneliness, most discouraging financial situation, i am struggling every single day with pernicious addictions that are compounding the destructive process in which i am ruefully entangled. the toxic oppressiveness of my current life climate enables the addictions and feeds their rage daily. worst addiction is tobacco. been smoking almost half my life. it's so hard to quit and the worst part that hinders me from even fighting to quit is that im so lonely, depressed, and simply indifferent to my health or life that i dont feel enough motivation. addiction to adderall, my medication. i depend on it for feeling ok. in dire absence of life stimulation, joy, and human company i ingest the adderall to give a kick to my dead, dysfunctional system. there r other terrible addictions due. all of them work hand in hand. this is killing me. im dying. im killing myself. my life has rotted into abhorrent garbage.

I'm a college student, currently living with my parents. If you guys don't know, it's the norm in my country to stay with parents when one is not married yet. Living with my parents for 20 years means that I have to deal with dad's heavy drinking almost every day. My dad drinks a lot. When he's drunk, he becomes verbally abusive. In the past, he hit my mom a few times and there're times he got serious accidents because of being drunk as well. It's tense to be at home in evening because that's when my dad gets drunk. Holidays often feel stressful because that's when my dad has a lot of free time from work and of course, he drinks all day. My dad's heavy drinking is what makes me feel very stressed and embarrassed. I don' tell anyone out of my family except for a friend about the situation at home.

Now that I'm in a relationship, I'm a bit worried about my partner's tendency of addiction but that's another story.

I don't know what to do with a stalker I have. It's a total addiction and they won't stop. My phone, and who knows what else. How can I communicate to this person they have an addiction and that's a mental illness. They are also a sex addict and I have found pictures on my phone that don't belong to me. I'm terrified this is the man I love dearly and am suppose to meet New Years Day. If so, as much as I love him, I have enough going on in my life. I rather be alone no matter how much it will hurt and devastate me.

A really close friend of mine has an addiction to drugs and alcohol. It's in her family to be addicted and she thinks that's an excuse. She drinks and takes drugs with friends and thinks, while she's doing it, that she is the greatest person on earth. I really want to help her and show her, that there are others who care for her. I don't want her to end like somebody of her family did but whenever my friends and I start talking about her addiction, she changes the topic or screams around how funny it is to have depression and when the next classmate-drinking-party is. How can you help such a person who is refusing everything?

I'm a new parent. My twins were born late September. With new babies comes a variety of new stresses. I understand it at an intellectual level, but other challenges keep presenting themselves as well. I'm 32. My wife is 33. Neither of us are in what I would call Prime health. as a matter of fact we're both overweight by 70+ lbs. I'm a diabetic and she has an eating disorder (binge/purge cycles and an all around horrible relationship with food). I am starting to come a bit undone with the lack of sleep, the new demands being placed on me with the children, and dealing with my wife's ED. And I feel guilty because of it. I was raised with the traditional opinion that as "the man" I was supposed to be strong, stoic, and capable of dealing with not only my own problems but everyone else's as well. And, for a while, that was me.

I've recently (for the second time in as many years) started down the path of healthier living/eating. I'm exercising, I'm eating good foods, and I'm trying to keep as active as possible. My wife on the other hand is just complaining about her weight, fitness, etc. Every time I try to help her with it, she resists. Or she gets on the elliptical for 10 minutes a single day and then goes weeks without touching it. I feel selfish and horrible, but I'm running out of patience. I want her to either accept her weight or do something about it.

I can't take this "Dont offer me anything I shouldn't have" one moment and "let's go get ice cream" the next. I am becoming frustrated with her for simply voicing her own frustrations about her weight.

I don't know how to help her with her eating disorder. Honestly, I don't know if I even can. I just wish she was willing to help herself.

My ex boyfriend, whom I still really care about struggled with addiction.
Due to excessive drinking, he had developed bipolar disorder and psychosis. I've known him before he became an alcoholic, and he was much different then. There was a point in our relationship where he was sent to the mental hospital for breaking all the furniture in a drunken rage. He also beat his little sister up, and soon enough he was taken to the mental hospital.
He ended things there because he thought he was no good for me, but I still really care about him. I just don't know how he is now, and I know that he might have some resentment for me, or maybe he doesn't care about me anymore, but I still care and I pray every night that he is safe.

Hi, Im new here. But Im a survivor of a parent who is an alcoholic .In fact lots of people in my family struggle with addiction of all sorts. Its so hard because I love them all. But I dont want to be like them. I want to support them and for them to get better but its so hard. Ive seen it ruin their lives, my life, and their relationships. Just everything. I just want everyone to be happy. I want to be truly happy again. But all I have is horrible anxiety. Im so confused and scared by everything . I dont want to be scared. I want my parent to get better. I want to still have a relationship with them. I dont want to give up on them. Everyone in my life tells me conflicting things. They say Ill regret not keeping a relationship with them, some say just call it quits. I just dont know what to do. Im finally an adult and I havent lived in same house as either my parents in almost a year. But I still have these thoughts, this anxiety. Im just so timid and I want to be around people who will understand. Thanks to everyone who takes the time to read this, and Ill be there for anyone who needs support❤️