High sex drive is playing havoc with me
I (25m) have had a very high sex drive for a long time now and over the years it has begun to wear away at me. Not only is it causing distraction but because I am completely unfulfilled sexually it has added to my depression and loneliness. I quit porn 6 months ago with little impact so I'm wondering if there was a way to reduce or completely get rid of my sex drive
Wow, you have quit porn for 6 months? You’re a better man than I, as I am genuinely struggling. I have very high sex drive as well. What is interesting is that a few years ago I was put on some medications for anxiety and one of the side effects was complete disinterest in sex. A month where I had no desires at all. I think for some people it may be their only way to get relief, and I genuinely will be looking into that again.
Sex drive is normal and you need to learn to manage it just like any other desire. It’s okay to fulfill it either by self pleasure, fantasy, or sex (with consent, of course), but you can also balance it by developing hobbies and other interests. This could be reading, exercise, cooking, exploring, music, language… a well balanced life with multiple interests will help you not to be consumed by one desire.
@walkalot the problem I have is that I don’t have many interests to try and distract myself and often the urges overpower my attempts to suppress them
@COnverse539
i will suggest one, maybe it help. Read the book called The Novel Cure
@walkalot this might be the wrong attitude but I really don’t get much out of books especially self help books, I’m not a big reader at all so I can’t see myself getting anything out of this
@COnverse539
what solutions have you tried?
what solutions have other people suggested?
@walkalot I’ve tried to quit porn and pinch myself when I feel urges. Nobody has suggested anything really, most people just say that my sex drive is fine even though I’ve told them it’s not and it’s making me miserable
@COnverse539
there are solutions. you need to widen your box a little. Look online for things about managing behavior and changing habits, don’t focus on the sex drive. I’m sure there are several potential solutions. You already did the first step, so you’re on the way.
@COnverse539
Ugh, I wish I knew a suggestion, but you're definitely not alone. People think always having a high sex drive is a good thing, but living with it 24/7 is not easy.
So I have bit of a high sex drive myself and I also have a friend with the same problem. Both of us scorpios born 3 days apart. One thing I can suggest is exercise. it'll take some time to have an effect but every little bit helps. Still proud of how long you managed to kick the porn habit for. So hang in there you got this!