Porn addiction

@limeOrange7459: Listen you are not alone. I too have been watching porn daily multiple times a day. Actually most of the time my Google search history is porn. I con't remember when I started watching porn. I do remember when we had dial up internet I used to look up girls as a search query on yahoo and when it would bring up a picture of a good looking girl iI would be happy with that. I don't remember when I moved to actual porn. Do I want to kick my porn watching. Not really I just want to get the urge to cut back. Perhaps to 2 times a week or once a week not every day multiple times a day. It is tough. If I go a day with out it I have noticed myself becoming a little grouchy. But I think when I kink the habit and cut back and rewire my brain it will be less grouchy. See your brain becomes wired to need that porn to satisfy your need for pleasure and you keep seeking porn to satisfy of your brains need for that pleasure. If you can find some other way to take care of that need for pleasure you should feel much better. I did it once and was able to cut back watching porn for a bout a week about a year ago but ended back on it. I know you can do it. Put your mind to it and good luck

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@limeOrange7459 i have the same issue, i just can't seem to stop and always end up with a relapse. the maximum I can last is a day or two, hopefully we all can get past this soon

@limeOrange7459

Could you use website blockers to limit your access to explicit content online? And maybe identify activities/hobbies that can help replace the time you would have spent on porn. I know it’s not easy, but everyone has to start somewhere….

https://read.easypeasymethod.org/ whilst this isnt a miracle-cure, it helps in understanding what's going on and offers a healthy perspective on freeing yourself from it

Hi,

I am a woman and I always understood porn is an addiction so I always looked at it that way; what I don't get is when a guy fixates on one specific porn star but I also see that as an addiction but I don't see how a guy would try to follow someone on social media like that, especially an older man; that to me means he hasn't learned anything and not a very honorable person

also, he comes off as very perverted on social media, but I just see no need for him to have these profiles on his social media account, like friending them even if they are fake, and also it seems like a waste of time, since I don't see what they are getting from it

i am not a hypocrate and understand the needs to get off and do things with others, however, I do not see this as good when it becomes personal

in the end, I do feel it's demeaning to both men and women and I always thought I would find someone completely the opposite, someone who values real life relationships and not this; I do think that eventually someone would understand this but for an older guy like 50+ to have these women on his profiles, I don't know why he thinks it's ok. I would be personally embarrassed. 

The other thing he mentioned to me is when he was younger he paid someone for sex. I am sure it happened more than once b/c he lies to me about things in general even if it's not his past but even about recent things, so I do not really trust anything he says.

I just think it's disrespectful. I don't think it's just about porn anymore. I just don't think our values match. I am a woman and I admit I have watched it, however, for work reasons, I stopped, and I can no longer make myself watch it. I do not think there was anything wrong with watching those things when I did, and I too had sometimes a preference for certain actors, however I feel that friending or trying to friend even fake profiles or maybe real, I feel that crosses the line. I never ever thought I would be able to relate to someone like this.

On a second note, I am not that attracted to him, and for reasons I can't get into really that has nothing to do with me, I did not really enjoy being intimate with him all that much. It wasn't really about intimacy but more about sex, in the end I never felt like I had a real connection with him. The sex turned out to be meaningless and I ended up feeling used and cheap

hey everyone

I just noticed the OP is no longer a user on this site, just FYI

so we are talking amongst ourselves now.