Bad breakup

Hiya @BrokenDoll80 welcome to the community! 

Breakups are hard in general, but coming out of an abusive relationship is even more challenging, and it's completely understandable to feel overwhelmed after such a difficult experience. :( 

Ending an abusive relationship can take a toll on both your mind and body. I feel it's normal to feel that intensity of emotions, especially in the aftermath, as you said, healing often starts with growing out of the masked "comfort zone" in the name of familiarity, even if your relationship was brief.

I'm super proud of you for trying to come out of it, for taking steps towards healing and for reaching out for support while you're at it. 💛 Sending all the strength and love your way. 

I myself have been dealing with a breakup. Unfortunately I cannot relate with the whole abusive part, my 8 year relationship ended because of cheating, I thought I could forgive brush it under the carpet but it was the thoughts that haunted me. I ended up leaving her couldn't bare the pain explained my reasoning only to get blamed for everything in the end. In her eyes she was the victim " the reason why I did it was because you.... etc etc etc...". Moving forward on my own I completely had to readjust, instead of worrying about her needs I'm now focusing more on myself. It's been a year since and I look back at the man I was once before leaving was the best decision I have ever made. I wouldn't necessarily say everything is going great or that I'm now this changed person but I now can say I am a person that deserved better and there is someone out there for me. A woman that is for me and only me, a woman that I can call mine and I'm hers. Like I said earlier it's only been a year so I am still healing taking this time for myself, havnt been in any relationships and what ever happens happens I'm not rushing and either should you. You are in a very hurt place right now. Only time can heal and if you wanna reach out talk about it more I can be a open ear