Bedtime Belly Aches
Hi all! Since I’ve been cheated on sleeping at night has became a chore. I lay there as my belly aches and images of the woman he desired flash through my mind. Anxiety, insecurity, and the overwhelming feeling of worthlessness arise. This toxic spew boils inside me and prevents me from sleeping.
Ive notice my insomnia has increasingly gotten worse and all I can do is toss and turn whilst his body sleeps peacefully beside me.
@littlePark866
It is difficult to do this but so often i hear people making themselves ill or stressed over things that they may need to let go. If your partner is still there i am guessing you are trying to move past this and forgive...
The reality is often cheating is not about looks or real comparison to their partner.... but IMO most partners that were cheated on ....... try to make it about a comparison and feel bad about themselves, thus making themselves miserable.
if you are working with partner did he say why? or did he play the "i don't know" card.. many do.
The reality is important IMO if you want to try to not let history repeat. I feel anyone in those shoes should work on themselves to know their worth without relying on your partners opinion.
For Example: IF a partner was feeling unwanted or their partner did not make them feel respected and appreciated. it was the person who listened to them or stroked my ego, filled whatever they thought was missing ........... NOT was better looking or whatever.
He cheated on me consistent with a woman over our 2 year relationship. The night everything went down I called her and asked what was going on, I put her on speaker and he was throwing things and shouting at me- but I kept her in the phone.
She said he told her we’ve been broken up since month 1- and lemme tell you that is devastating to hear. Especially because we live together and have traveled across multiple states and have had pets together and more.
She states that she was disgusted by him and that I should leave the relationship. It’s been a whirlwind but I am only 20 and trying my best to afford things as it is, I’ve lived with him since I was 18. The betrayal- the pictures- the phone calls he hid from me- all the things he said and did was a lie.
He tried to make up excuses that I wasn’t emotionally there for him but the messages I saw between the two of them would say otherwise. None of this was my fault- I was stupid and naive and need help getting out
@littlePark866
if all were lies and you need to leave then that is what you need to do ...
no one said anything was your fault i have just seen so many whose partner has cheated and IF they planned on staying they need to do deep dive about everything in relationship