How do I help my 10yo with her anxiety attacks

In the beginning it was hard.

But now we’ve learn —

First I help her realise that’s whats happening.

Second, I hold her hands and help her with her breathing - deep and slow.

Third she focus on feeling her breath and realises she’s here, now, and she’s safe

Forth - and this may take some time - she cries if she needs and she names her tears “this are tears of fear”, or “these are tears of stress”

So I wait until she calms down and when I see she’s a wee better I ask If I can hug her.

When she’s ok to be hugged I tell her I love her and I’m here, she’s not alone.

She may cry a little longer but buy now she’s present again.

Now we’re working on strategies on how to calm her down when I’m not present.

It’s being a long journey. But we’re making progress.

I love her with all my heart.

And love wins everything.