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Needing some advice so I don't come off rude.

User Profile: srs1992
srs1992 July 27th, 2025

My fiance and I live in our RV at his parents house, the house was and is being renovated so they hadn't been staying here until about a month ago.

They have no kitchen in the house so grill outside.

At first I was very annoyed by eating together because one day, the first day they stayed at the house my fiance was going to cook dinner so I didn't have to for a change. Later that day his mom asked if we wanted to eat with them, we agreed. When she got home she asked him if we, which really was me, could cook the food she got.

That really annoyed and irritated me, I went from doing basically nothing, to nothing, to having to cook the whole meal and not being able to season anything besides the chicken, and having to cook it when I wasnt hungry, and was extremely hot outside. They dont use anything other than salt n pepper which I heavily season all my foods, you cant season after its cooked. I tried to have my fiance help cut the chicken but I was in a pissy mood so just told him never mind, which lead to me not really being able to eat the chicken because I have bad teeth. He got upset that I was in a bad mood and said I should be grateful, I dont deal well when things change drastically and when I have to cater to other people (meaning in this cant season food so I'll eat it)

Regardless of that I prettymuch DREAD dinner now unless its raining. We're broke so its nice and helpful they buy the food but... I dont like they food they make, its hard for me to eat it because whatever meat which is usually chicken is ALWAYS dry, and really hard so I cant really eat it, no seasonings which I hate the taste of chicken I hace to cover the gross taste or wont really eat it. And just not that good of chicken so usually I end up with a stomach ache from whatever food they cook. I also dont want to cook food I dont like and also have to cook it to someone else's liking not mine.

We can only really contribute a side or something if we eat together so thats out of my control.

A few hours ago he asked me if we had peppers and mushrooms... he knows what we have or could've looked but his mom wants to make fajitas tonight... I've been in a bad mood for a few hours because I wont be able to eat that. Whatever meat they'll get will be tough and dry. I just got a tooth pulled and realized a few days ago they didnt get it all out, a banana hurt today while eating it so how am I supposed to eat that.

I dont want to *** my fiance off by me randomly saying something rude about the whole deal. I dont want to seem rude to his mom either.

I have a bit of an eating problem, I cant eat if im stressed or upset and havent been eating much in general then adding food I dont like and cant eat doesnt help. Eating when im not hungry well.. I dont eat if im not hungry so havent been eating much. They dont really cook a whole lot so even if I was hungry I feel weird about getting too much because of my fiance step dad, he eats a lot. Then its hot and eating outside is awful to me being hot and bugs everywhere. Dinner is just awful and I dont know how to fix it without coming off like a ***.

While typing this I sort of annoyed my fiance because I seemed annoyed he started talking to me and I didnt really have a reply. So thats nice....

I just want to eat food I like and caneat and be comfortable.

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User Profile: fossilfellow
fossilfellow July 27th, 2025

@srs1992 I'm really sorry you're going through this, Please know that you're not alone.

Your feelings are totally valid and they matter 🤍 please try not to be too hard on yourself ❤️

It's completely okay to vent sometimes. I hope you find the support here 🍀 and things start to feel a little lighter. 🤍 Sending lots of love your way. ❤️❤️

User Profile: modestBalsam8023
modestBalsam8023 July 27th, 2025

Are you able to control what you eat at breakfast and lunch? If possible, eat your main 2 meals and have a snack or something, then at dinner just cook for them and don't eat it. Would that at least help you get through that? Are you going to make sure the dentist fixes the mistake with your poor tooth!!! Feel better soon sounds really yucky :0(