Fear of Death

@discreetPineapple75 ah I never thought someone else could possibly understand what I felt 😅

I relate with you so much, I've experienced fear of death and sometimes just randomly focusing about death, how will I die, will someone miss me if I am not here etc it is awful feeling that constant fear and living with those thoughts . I feel you 🤕

Something that helps me to overcome these thoughts and to snap out of this negative thought cycle is to assure that death is natural and I don't have to think and worry about it too often, I can make the most of the life in front of me , try and find new Joys and opportunities, be happy and more present in the present . I tried mindfulness exercises, and it really calms me . I hope you will be able to come out of these negative thoughts too . Don't give up and yes, there's more to life than just life , and we have to live it up 💙

@discreetpineapple75 I had the same problem until while reading something it struck me that worrying about death is causing me not to enjoy my life at the fullest. I don’t know if you ever see this other half of the glass. If you want i will eagerly listen to your story, so pm if you like. Lots of love!

Yes I have too, I especially find it scary about "what will happen and when" but I try to forget it all now and think... "what can I do now and what makes life fun" So just think about the fun stuff.

While scrolling I found a phobia that certainly troubles me here.

Agoraphobia is pretty bad, almost as if it’s manifested into some type of complex for myself (and possibly others).

Idk if I should write this but I guess I am; what bothers me most in no particular order are what happens afterwards, in the sense that since I am clinically diagnosed with panic disorder and get completely terrified and scared to death at times to the point I’ve been taken to the ER where they are less than sympathetic and go “oh your vitals are fine, o2 levels, your heart rate is up some but you’re fine. You must be looking for drugs or something” 😒 but not in those words.

and. It’s as if there isn’t many ppl at all to talk to about and help overcome thanatophobia. My main concern is there is a benzo and antidepressant that I use sparingly and they do help some, maybe 20% effectiveness in helping me calm down out of when symptoms in the mind go rampant, it’s like one is drowning and reaching for a rope that isn’t there, but once life ceases it scares me to death of what if the consciousness continues to some degree. What I mean is say these panic symptoms continue forevermore once deceased and there isn’t an ER to get rushed to by a family member just to sit outside in the parking lot and idk why but it’s calming. It’s calming and assuring to at least think that if I began hyperventilating to a point that I could not bear, and the mind ran rampant with distressing thoughts that then wreck havoc on my body like starting with hives or hot flashes type things. Then heart racing. Then the smothering… it’s as if the mind is turning on the body to wreck as much havoc as possible making one as miserable and to the point they feel like they are dying and for what?

What imbalance, past trauma (well previous attacks certainly would qualify), lack of proper mental healthcare of more accurately the health status check of the amygdala, pituitary gland, pineal gland, hypothalamus, or dendrite and neuron synapses… what is the deal with why some of us have to continue to deal with and suffer from this type of phenomena?

bc there isn’t effective treatments that I’ve found, and have been with CBT therapy for years in addition to aforementioned meds (alongside several that have caused anaphylaxis from quack psychiatrists that make judgement calls in 15 minutes with weird medicines that have caused my throat to close with legitimate suffocation and being ran to the ER it’s just… wtf (I’m sorry)) but why??

I don’t do drugs and ashamedly I don’t won’t even drink a simple beer on the holidays to celebrate.

this is going nowhere to type it here. Is extremely revealing and vulnerable, but I’d give anything to be able to overcome this distress and move on with life, work again, maybe meet a good gal to start a new life with.

But the problem remains and idkwth I’m doing wrong or how to better break from this curse.

I can say that the combo of these two “disorders” alone (thanatophobia and agoraphobia) are a nexus for so many other issues like depression, low self esteem, scared to get out much, scared to meet new ppl or trust doctors (therapists seem the way to go but they can’t even suggest or adjust meds from my experience, you go and have a 15 min talk with a psychiatrist who just butchers everything for $400 and hour and makes you sign a piece of paper saying you will take what they prescribe until this past year i finally said to hell with that bc you keep putting me in the Er with all this experimental meds like you get paid to write as many strange scripts as possible instead of actually spending time or asking the right questions. I mean if the tables were reversed that is certainly how I would approach this situation for a patient.

Idk. I’m halfway in distress here typing this as often I try and come to 7cups here in the evening bc often I get too scared to even fall asleep. Like I’m an adult supposedly but something lacking either in Maslow’s heirarchy of basic needs that was never achieved in growing up or (insert reasonable explanation) so I supposed I found myself here in this thread to try and explain or maybe educate a little on what I’ve been through with this particular phobia.

for all I know I just made a fool out of myself or there’s going to be some simple response of yes someone understands and knows it’s hard but that usually is just dismissive bc ppl with this (and so many other detriments) are genuinely asking for solutions and not thoughtful rationalizations bc you know what? After we read a response or leave a therapy visit or alistener it is then that we are all in our own again to fend for ourselves.

I don’t think those who don’t struggle seem to realize this but I do realize that their hearts are at least trying to be in th right place.

just wish this mental anguish would be solvable or at the very least there was a 24/7 open line of communication where we could help calm ourselves down with mindfulness and real ppl. At the very least we have found an app like 7cups which is a helluva lot better than nothing. And it’s not that we need to be on a phone or chat for 8 hrs a day or even 5 days a week.

but just to be able to maybe a couple times a week be able to talk to someone would be great and if 7cups partners with another company then I think that would be a good venture. But that’s neither here nor there.

To chronically not be able to breathe properly, and overcame by fear in my honest option, is worse than any other possible mental struggle in life that at least I’ve experienced personally and idk what it’s going to take for better help with this and ptsd.

A broken bone, headaches, nausea and sickness all are not enjoyable by any means, but I’d take those 3x a week to be able to overcome what I’ve tried to explain to finally be rid of it permanently and just relax some, and not worry son much that whatever happens when we pass may not be bad at all. Maybe even the torment finally ends and everything’s peaceful. But I’m not about to risk testing it out bc once’s it’s done it done and my heart goes to all those I’ve never even met who’s truly deal with mental health struggles and never got proper care due to either qualified professionals not being qualified enough, or too judge mental to allow one to help ease this trauma.

I mean do I have to be old and all gray hair or something before one will finally go “okay. We believe you. You never had kids, you are too old to be a concern, and here’s something or the correct professional or program to help you feel relief.”

I can’t make heads or tails of it all but there’s a real persons sample take on agoraphobia and panic disorder if anyone here genuinely has not only experienced it for years (not just once or twice) And has overcame it. If not, at least there’s some knowledge for what it’s like if anyone thinks they can crack the code and help us get well again.

we just want to live a better life without the symptoms and chronic fear. I swear in my life that’s all we want (or at least me). We do not want some special attention or special treatment based on race, sex orientation or religion. We seriously don’t know why this stuff takes us over from the moment we wake up sometimes creeps up again closer to nighttime.

Idk what else to say but ty if anyone actually made it this far without being offended, judgmental, or thinks this is all just for show or attention.

we Need quality care for this phenomena. It’s not going to kill a good hospital to run good studies for weeks on ppl who’ve dealt with this for years and map how the synapses are firing as well as monitor the aforementioned fight or flight response glands in the brain.

we’ve got enough money to fake vax the whole world but we can’t feed the poor? And we’ve got enough profits to gene edit but can’t take a step back and try correcting existing conditions many of us are haunted by?

idk. I’m sorry I wrote anything. I want us all here to find our own peace at the end of the day no matter what is bothering us.

and inapolozie for writing so much but I’m tired of apologizing.

thisnisnhiw many of our lives are and I hate it.

I wish we all could overcome our own inner demons and until science takes a closer step backwards and addresses the present instead of countingntheirnprofitsnfromnthenfuture with all these mandates and masks and fear porn cycles I just hope someone bigger than me can help bring good change and awareness to the situations of the here and now.

Ill pray for all of us here tonight. It won’t be personalized but He will know what I’m trying to say as I pray.

hope something good happens to you guys this week you didn’t expect and once you recover from your own troubles, that you come back to 7 cups or another site that helped you and become a mentor.

✌️

am going through this too

I really a difficult situation for me but I pray it goes fast so I can live a normal life