Abusive breakup support - I honestly do not know where else to post this
Hey 7Cups ! I really need some inspiring stories here. I am trying to get out of an abusive relationship and all I have been hearing from people is how abusive people are "impossible to leave" and how they "never would have left their abuser if their abuser hadn't left them first"
does anyone have any stories about how THEY were able to leave their abusive bf/gf ??? Advice? Things that helped ? Just motivational stories of leaving the abuser in the dust in general !?!
xo Chloe
@Chlo1234567
Check out this book and similar books
Getting Free- A Handbook For Women in Abusive Situations by Ginny NiCarthy
https://www.google.com/books/edition/_/9kAyexMLobUC?hl=en
https://www.amazon.com/Getting-free-handbook-abusive-relationships/dp/093118813X
@Chlo1234567
More resources:
https://www.helpguide.org/articles/abuse/getting-out-of-an-abusive-relationship.htm
Google search link:
https://www.google.com/search?q=HOW+TO+ESCAPE+AN+ABUSIVE+RELATIONSHIP
Google search link for video results:
https://www.google.com/search?q=HOW+TO+ESCAPE+AN+ABUSIVE+RELATIONSHIP&source=lnms&tbm=vid
@Chlo1234567
If one is living with an abusive partner then some possible things to do are:
1) One could if they want to ... take strict safety measures to prevent communications like this being seen by the assaulter. That includes safe web browsing as described here: https://rainn.org/node/2141
2) One could if they want to ... have a "Safety Plan" as described here:
https://www.thehotline.org/help/path-to-safety/
and also here:
https://rainn.org/articles/safety-planning
3) One could if they want to ... take measures to attend to mental health
as described partially here https://rainn.org/node/2216
4) One could if they want to ... get appropriate consultation (medical, legal, therapy, etc).
5) One could if they want to... get appropriate support group(s) to help.
6) One could if their want to... contact their National Sexual Assault Hotline to be connected to local Service Provider.
@Chlo1234567
Even more resources:
https://psychcentral.com/lib/domestic-violence-organizations-and-resources/
has book list near the bottom and lists organizations and hotlines in US.
@Chlo1234567
Here's a Bing.com search videos result that is better because you can preview the videos directly on this page without opening a video. Just hover your cursor over the video of interest and then if it says "preview", then you click on the speaker x button to hear the video preview.
https://www.bing.com/videos/search?q=HOW+TO+ESCAPE+AN+ABUSIVE+RELATIONSHIP&FORM=HDRSC3
@7motivation
thank you so much for all of these I am looking into them now
