Anxious and lost
I've been obessing for months of how to make changes to better my life .. Everyone around me gives me great advice and are super supportive.. but I don' change I keep on repeating the vicious cycle in my mind... I want change but don't know what I want to do and dont know where to start.. if anyone has anything to say about this ... would love advice
@carefulPear931
I see that your thought process is not helping you. I'm not a good advice giver, but you can start stopping the vicious cycle in your mind by Identifying the thought and changing it to alternative thoughts.
You can learn more about faulty thinking in
https://www.habitsforwellbeing.com/10-forms-of-cognitive-distortions-faulty-thinking/
For example:
Negative thought: "They hate me"
Trap that thinking and identify it "I'm falling into Mind reading thinking"
Find the evidence "What evidence do I have on this thought? They're looking at me weirdly"
And then create an alternative thought "Just because they're looking at me weirdly, doesn't mean they hate me"
I hope that helps :3
@carefulPear931 You and me both! I have officially lost my mojo. I've been sitting in bed all night researching Puerto Rico (never been there) trying to figure out how to run away from this hole I've dug for myself. But, then in the back of mind, I hear that old saying, "wherever you go, there you are", which scares me back to reality, and then, once again, I'm frozen in this still, passionless place.
