A spiral that keeps getting bigger no matter how much I try to fix it?
So, I've been having like, just a terrible year. Found myself in a bad rut, which affected my diet which in turn made my meds less effective, which made my sleep cycle a complete mess, which made me late for work, which got me fired from one of my jobs (first job I've ever been fired from and one that I loved more then myself) not even 2 months before christmas. Plus, my memory was shot, so I'd forgotten to send in rent checks, and didn't know until 3 months had passed. So, now I've been facing eviction as I desperatly struggle to work as much as possible, find a new job, get rent assistance (which my income is to low for! Wow!), borrow money from family who I'm not comfortable with even asking for help from letting alone needing it, and on friday I found out apparently I've been doing the rent payments all wrong (which they never told me and in the new eviction notice they mention a payment I made as their lawyer told me too) and I have to talk to them and beg for more leniancy which I have no idea if they'll even actually talk to me.
So, I've spent all weekend unable to really eat or sleep, stressed out of my mind, and ended up having a panic attack at work today. I've been upset and angry and just so tired for so long now, and I hate talking to my friends about it because they're trying to be helpful but they're telling me to do stuff I'm already doing, you know? Plus, I feel like the biggest downer alive right now. I'm just so tired of feeling terrible even when I'm working myself down to nothing to fix it.
I just need some coping stratagies so I can do this talk tomorrow without bursting into tears :(
Hi @Audrey7412
I think it would be helpful for you to break everything down into small parts. Right now you've got everything piling on you at once, and no one can get out from under such chaos. It sounds like the number one thing on your To Do list is to get this rent situation taken care of. I think it would be really beneficial if you could ask a friend to go with you to talk to the rental office/manager. You need someone that can listen to what it is they want, write it down, and help explain everything to you that you need to do.
I don't mean that you're incapable of doing it on your own. But right now, you're frazzled, and you're not thinking clearly because of it. If you can have a friend or family member come with you to help understand everything, it's going to take a lot of pressure off of you and then you have a second set of ears to understand what the rental people are saying.
hey @Audrey7412
This might not be the best solution as I'm much too young to understand this, but I find that listening to music while doing something else can take your mind away from anxiety.
If you're listening to a happy song, your mind will most likely follow that into some sort of peace. I'm not sure if it'll work, but it's worth a try. If you have any time to do this, then it might be useful.
