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Over two years ago I fell in love with this boy. He had the personality I was looking for, the looks, and the money for us to truly become successful with. We dated for an entire year then I moved and he cheated on me, I soon then ended our relationship and continued to move on with life. I was hard. Then I realized I also like women, I then fell in love with the girl Im with now and weve been together for 8 months now, by the 4th month of us dating she moved into my house. I tried to be honest with her and tell her just a few days ago that sexually Im no longer interested in it. Yes, it was hurtful to say but I felt like she needed to know. I have never cheated on anyone Ive ever dated and never will but I think Im starting to fall for my ex again. He owns 3 house at the age of 19 and is majoring in law atm. Her and I are trying to get by every day with barely any money in our pocket. What do I do? Is this just a phase? Do I stay with her? Do I break up with her? I dont know!!!
@anonyCircle1963 Wow that's a tough situation to be in. It gets complicated once you start living with someone. I would say you need to ask yourself some questions and be very honest with yourself.
1. When you say you are no longer interested in sexually being with your current partner, is it because she is a woman or because you are distracted by feelings of your previous partner? If it's the former, the relationship will always have this problem and likely won't recover. If it's the latter, you need to address and work on the problems going on in your relationship.
2. Would you or could you ever trust your previous partner after he's cheated on you? I personally believe trust is the foundation of all romantic relationships. Without it, there will be other problems in your relationship especially pertaining to jealousy. This is not an easy question and you should take time to truly consider if he can be trusted again.
3. Do you have a safe place to go if you were to end things with your partner? If you did, would it make this decision easier on you? This is one of the top reasons many people stay with their partners, because they can't afford to leave the relationship, or don't have a safe place to go. You should be able to tell your partner that you no longer wish to be in a relationship. If you need to find another place to stay, be honest with her and start looking for a place. This is the important part. Do not move in with your ex. Especially if you don't trust him. Find your own place, or a place with roommates, whatever safe place you can afford. **I'm making the assumption that you have the resources to find or afford another place to stay. If this is not the case, you can seek help from women's shelters and government funding.**
I hope this was helpful to you <3
hey there! I'm sorry to hear you're struggling! wanted to let you know that making duplicate posts isn't allowed in 7Cups, I've left this one as the original one and deleted the other two. If you think it's more fit somewhere please feel free to ask and we can move it to the appropriated subforum. Hope all feels better soon!