Lost & Alone

@Tnk83,

I am so sorry that your husband left you because you have anxiety and depression, and he doesn't believe in it. First of all, I know it doesn't feel this way right now, but you are better off without someone who thinks that anxiety and depression isn't "real". It very much is, and it needs attention. I can't imagine how stressful it is to be without a second income.

But, you said you don't know how to get him to understand. You deserve someone who accepts EVERY part of you, and someone who will be there to support you when you're down. Surround yourself with loved ones, do activities with your child and you'll figure out what makes you happy. It is scary being alone, I have made mistakes of getting into bad relationships because I wasn't sure how to be on my own. But, take time for yourself and learn to love who you are. I hope this helps, and you find the happiness you deserve!

@Tnk83

Youve asked three major questions.Theyre solid and understandable to ask, but complicated nonetheless.

First, I felt like I couldnt respond to anything else until I addressed something that stood out to me about your post... You arent weak for the battle you have been needing to win every day just to be here. How can you be weak when that takes pure strength alone? ♡ Im sorry you turned to the man who made a vow to love you in sickness and in health, and instead of receiving support, you faced insensitivity and absence. That says an awful lot about his character, more than it does about the battle youre up against.

How do you find yourself?
Be patient with yourself, even when its a challenge. Finding the right support for our needs, crucial. Sometimes, when we go to ‘find ourselves, we might be looking for a self that is familiar to us, a self that was whole— but life has a way of breaking us down into these fragments we dont recognize right away. Processing our thoughts, our feelings— when we slowly make sense of all these pieces before us, we are able to start rebuilding. Just like mosaics are beautiful, so are we— falling apart gives us the opportunity to recreate ourselves again in creative ways that inspire our future.

How can I be happy again?
Its always hard to believe well have happiness again until we feel it for ourselves, and it stays or visits more often. I hope, even more than happiness, that youre able to find peace as often as you need it.

How can I make him understand?
This one is tough. Even if I knew more about him and your dynamic, I still wouldnt be qualified to answer this. But, all I can think is.. I hope you two are able to communicate and resolve this amicably in time.

You arent alone in this, thank you for sharing your story. Come by again anytime. ♡