First jobs with social anxiety
Hello! I'm a high school student and I'd really live to be able to find a casual job somewhere. Preferably a retail outlet or something. The only problem is my social anxiety is making it really difficult. Its not as bad as it used to be since I started taking medication, but I still feel like it's getting in the way. I've tried at at quite a few different places now, none of which have gotten back to me. There was one where I got a phone interview, but I didn't get the job. My resume is fine and I've done plenty of volunteering, but I'm worried I'm not putting myself across as confident enough. The worst part of it is my shaky voice and the fact that I freeze up. It isn't voluntary, but I'm just left standing there, my face burning, unable to say anything, or pick up the phone if they are ringing me from an unknown number. Its very frustrating. I'm just wondering if anybody else here has struggled the same looking for a first job, and if so, how did you manage to overcome it? Thank you :)
@aquaSailboat4406
Hi! Good on you for applying, that really is the best approach. Avoidance tends to make anxiety worse in the long run, that is how our brains work. Plus, lots practise is how we learn anything new and get good at it.
My kids are very confident and great social skills and still they had to apply for a lot of jobs before they found something. It usually isn't personal. Businesses get a lot of applicants and can only choose one or two. But still yes it is a great idea to work on your confidence and communication skills, it can only help. 😊
I can relate to your description, as I have had social anxiety all my life also. What I find helpful sometimes is to just be honest - "I am feeling nervous having just walked in here and my voice is a bit shakey, but I am good with customers, I know this from experience volunteering." Just an example, say whatever is true for you, smile and laugh and aim to set their minds at ease and make them feel comfortable. It is a fine line of course, you don't want to talk too much about your faults, but honesty and clarity are good skills also.
How are you doing now? Have you applied for any more jobs? 🤗