How much is real?
Any tips on telling which gut feelings are real & which are just anxiety?
I feel like a gut feeling is something that you have based on what you know, and anxiety is more of what MIGHT be/unknown.
That's a really good point. Sometimes though like if I'm confused about how someone's acting I think of crazy possibilities
I like to start with "grounding" myself. I focus on physical objects around me that I know are real. Like taking a moment to really feel the ground under my feet. Or putting my hands by my sides while sitting a feeling the chair, the fabric or wood, and concentrate on how that feels. Generally, that brings me into a place where I have a bit of a grasp on reality and can start to see what is a legitimate concern for me at the moment.
I have been told I need to focus on the moment more. I'll try that
i have learned to separate the what if feelings from actual feelings that need to be addressed
That's a really good point. I'm working on that. I feel like I need to address every what-if so I'd be prepared if the situation arises & it takes over my life sometimes
This is always my challenge with my BPD ...which is why I prefer to become numb instead and try tone neutral to everything at home it's always safer that way since I'm always accused of being overly sensitive as it is ..
I used to do that too but it got to the point where I felt depressed & made some choices I wouldn't have made if I'd aknowledgedmy emotions. Egconvincing myself I'm overreacting to being stalked or played. I'm working on learning to aknowledge my emotions w/o letting them run my life
my social anxiety is so bad that i only leave the house when it it totally necessary and i always feel as though everyone is watching and laughing at me because i look awkward and out of place
It's hard to get past that feeling. Are there any places you feel more comfortable or any people you feel more comfortable with?