My anxiety is ruining my relationship
My anxiety is getting worse in my relationship with my fiancé. Feeling insecure like everyday and having a big urge in controlling his activity and it makes him feels like trapped and mad. Need him to reply my chat as fast as possible even when he's busy there.. (We r in long distance relationship). He is a really nice and understanding partner for me. And i know he never gonna cheat on me but my mind was being irrational most of times. I become very jealous, suspicious, and always wondering what's he doing there when he's not replying my chat. I know it all caused by my anxiety but the more i try to keep calm with my thoughts, the more mad i am . like feeling angry and upset toward him and we fight a lot due to my anxiety :( pls help.
Hi. It sounds like he is a really nice guy, and you have some thoughts that are not useful to you. One thing that you could do, is to interupt your thought process. You text him, he doesn't reply instantly, rather then let yourself get carrued away with automatice thoughts, just go through the reasons there might be for him not replying, eg his battery is flat, he is driving etc, Be gentle with yourself and people have found that if they stick wioth this, no matter how difficult it is to start with, that it does actually help.
Hope you find this useful.